Monday, June 27, 2011

After a break up, how long should you wait to get serious with somebody new?

This is a response to a question my face book friend Brent posted. I thought I’d post it here also.

“It all depends on where you are in your  life and what you want. I find that often it’s best to take some time alone or single especially if you are one of those people that have never been alone or jump from relationship to relationship as most very attractive women do because it’s so easy. A lot of women don’t leave one man until the have another lined up. I see the less in men.

People that are never single and never spend any time alone really don’t have a relationship with their self or even know themselves well. When you don’t know yourself or have a quality relationship with yourself how can you ever expect to really  have quality relationship with another person.

People also need to wake up from the LIE we are sold that we need someone else to complete us. We must find that inner peach and feel completed  and happy our own then we will attract others to us that also feel that way.

Relationships are Mirrors that show us aspects of our self and also reflect back to us what we judge harshly in others. So you really need to asses what you have learned from the relationship about yourself, your actions, reactions, and also what you have discovered that you are attracting in others and what you want and do not want in a future partner and relationship.

Without that you’re pretty much going to attract the same thing and often make the very same mistakes as you did last time.

Now if you’re just dating and there are really just seeing someone for a month you should still learn about what you want and don’t and your actions and reactions. But you don’t need a cooling off period that’s as long or even one at all.

BTW you can apply this way of thinking to your entire life, your job, family, sports, a conflict with a random person. This is the way I live everyday.

Asking how I attracted a situation, where my actions the best I could have taken and what would I prefer in the future.”

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Most Girls Are Seriously Insecure: Part Two


eva weisberg1Eva Weisberg. Sexy, intelligent, Eastern European author and dating coach. She’s the rare kind of girl that can observe and elegantly describe her own, and other womens’ behaviours and reactions when it comes to how guys act around them. And she’s just published her first book. 

Check out her book here: ‘Get a Girl: By a Girl’

=======================================If you haven’t read ‘Most Girls Are Insecure: Part One’, then check that out before reading below. 

So, how can all this help you with women?

Let me go through a few ways.

* Use sincere compliments to help boost her self-esteem. Tell your girl every day how pretty she is, about how you love her looks, whether or not she’s wearing make-up, and about how you love her shape and her figure, no matter what it is. Try telling her she’s beautiful when you’re having breakfast in the morning and before she’s put on any make-up, and then try telling her how good she looks when she’s been through the bathroom, and sorted her hair and make-up. And I always emphasise to men that girls love *details*. Don’t just say “You look nice, honey” while looking in the opposite direction! Try and say something personal and tailored, something like “You’re looking so fresh and young without your make-up”, or “I love your eyes with that eyeliner, it really emphasises their beauty”. If there’s something she’s most proud of (and there *is*, you just have to listen to her to find out what), compliment her on it! Just always make sure your compliment is genuine. If she’s touched by something you’ve said she’s likely to ask you to repeat it at some point — and you’re just as likely to have forgotten exactly what you said. If your compliment was genuine that’s no problem! You simply say something that conveys the
same emotion that you wanted to before.

* Don’t talk about other pretty girls, and what exactly you like about them! This should be simple common-sense, but so many guys don’t seem to *think*. The same goes for your exes — they are your past for a reason, so remember that, because not many girls will like hearing about them. It would make any girl insecure to think that you still think about your exes. If she’s already insecure it will make her feel even worse! While you’re trying to help her build up her self-esteem you’re better making it all about *her*. Make her feel special and
important. Don’t blindly trigger further insecurities.

* Related to that… listen and learn! If something you’ve said or done triggered her insecurity then no matter how justified you think you were, learn from it and avoid doing it again. You should be able to talk about almost anything — you just have to learn how to do it so that it doesn’t make her feel worse. If there’s no way, don’t talk about it. You’ve got everything under the sun to discuss. Exactly why are you wanting to talk about the mole on her face?

* And related to *that*… don’t joke about her being fat, not fitting that ass into those jeans, or anything like that! Not everybody shares your sense of humour. She could get seriously hurt — girls can be painfully sensitive about such matters. And you might be saying “Of course I’d never joke about a girl getting fat!” Well, a friend of mine once joked about it with a skinny girl he’d known since they were 14. He thought she’d know he was joking because it was “obvious” he was joking because she’s so skinny. But she was really hurt! And I’m not surprised. Just don’t do it, you’ll trigger a deep well of insecurities.

I don’t have the space to say much more, so I’ll leave you with one last piece of advice: if you ever notice a girl around you — a female friend, a sister, a girlfriend, even your mum — who looks insecure, remember what I’ve said and try to make her feel better. And if one of the girls around you seems happy, for the love of God don’t joke about her looks or her image, because she *is* almost certainly insecure. Keep her happy! It’s good karma — it’ll come back to you in the end!

There aren’t many things in life as rewarding as making someone you care about genuinely happy. You have the power to improve the life of the women around you by letting them know what’s special about them and why you love being around them, so use it! Believe me, they’ll remember it for a long time and want to spend their time with you. Don’t go overboard and just shower people with compliments all the time. That rings false quickly, or reduces their impact, but do let them know what you appreciate about them. Everybody loves being around a person who thinks they’re special and attractive — we all want to feel important. We’re all insecure. We all crave compliments. No matter how gorgeous we are.

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Most Girls Are Seriously Insecure: Part One

eva weisbergHey guys got a serious treat for you today. Eva has taken the time to write an awesome article about girls being insecure. These are some extremely valuable insights into the way girls think about themselves. Before that though, let’s have a reminder of who Eva is: 

Eva Weisberg. Sexy, intelligent, Eastern European author and dating coach. She’s the rare kind of girl that can observe and elegantly describe her own, and other womens’ behaviours and reactions when it comes to how guys act around them. And she’s just published her first book.

Check out her book here: ‘Get a Girl: By a Girl’

It may come as a surprise to you guys to know how many girls are seriously insecure. 

Some manage to hide it, some don’t. The prettiest girls think that they’re ugly and even the model-thin have ‘fat days’! The ladies in your life constantly compare themselves unfavourably to other girls, and often those much less attractive than them. It really is crazy. We know how unreasonable it is and how it affects our self-esteem and sours our lives, and yet still we can’t stop! I wish we could, but simply telling yourself, “I’m beautiful, I’m amazing” doesn’t always work. And when it does… it’s only til the next fat day.

Girls will often call other attractive women “bitches”, “sluts”, “mental”, any kind of abuse. To you it almost certainly seems well overboard — it happens whether or not anyone’s done something wrong, and it can seem absolutely unreasonable. Indeed, to an *objective* mind, it is unreasonable. But just remember, a girl isn’t being objective when she does this. She’s trying to make herself look and feel better — to herself and to you — than the competition. She’s trying to cover her jealousy with a screen of contempt. She thinks this will distract you from another attractive woman. In pointing out all her flaws to you, real or imagined, your girl is guaranteeing that you won’t waste your effort, and that you’ll focus all your attention on *her*.

Of course, if often works exactly the opposite way round. If you want to make an average-looking, uninteresting girl seem like a beauty to a guy, I can’t imagine a better way than to act nervous and jealous around her! He’s going to take a closer look! Before all he saw was an average girl and his attention passed straight over her, but now he’ll take a closer look and ask himself, “What’s she seen that I haven’t?” And in doing so, he can often see exactly what it is made his girl react so strongly.

So it can be self-defeating — and very damaging. I’ve no doubt you know much of this already, that you’ve been in similar situations with friends or girlfriends and probably figured out a lot of this for yourself. But where does it come from?

It comes down to mental attitude, and it comes down to insecurity. I feel awful that so many of us girls struggle constantly with insecurity. Indeed, I’m working on a book on confidence for women at the minute; it hurts too much to see gorgeous, smart women hurting themselves and fuelling their insecurities so needlessly.

Having said all this, you might be asking why girls feel so insecure around guys and, especially, other women. Well, I can’t go into everything — that can fill a book, trust me! — but I can pinpoint three major reason:

1) Unfortunately, women still base much of their feelings of self-worth on their looks and their figure. This is a cultural thing, but it’s widespread across almost the entire world. It’s totally different for men, who can build their image and their sense of self-respect on work, sports and social prestige — where looks may play a part but a much less important one. Women aren’t so lucky. Before going on a date, an average woman will spend ten times as long as you do, doing things that don’t matter much, at least not to guys: perfecting her make-up and her manicure, straightening or curling her hair, and often working herself into a foul or manic mood about it, too! If her image isn’t exactly right it’s going to hurt her badly. And with the focus women put on their own looks, it’s only natural that they focus on other women’s looks… which just reinforces the cycle. It’s a feedback loop and we just can’t break out of it. We judge her by her looks because she judges us by *our* looks. And because we’re focused on our appearance, we can’t help but believe the best-looking takes all the attention.

2) It’s a related issue that because women are so obsessed with their looks, they’re very susceptible to media brainwashing — about how you should look, how much you should weigh, what you should wear. I’m sure you’ve noticed girlfriends’ or sisters’ pre-occupation in the past. We have a huge amount of beauty-related information thrown at us every day. It’s no wonder we compare ourselves not just to other women but also to an imaginary ‘perfect image’. While you could say, “Just stop paying attention!” it really isn’t that easy. Yes, we could stop paying attention to it with a great struggle of will… and then we’d
fall behind all the other girls. And men would notice. We’d stand out, we’d be the oddball. Now that might work with some men, but it’s been my experience, both personal and professional, that it doesn’t work for *many* — and in the meantime it gains us at best the mockery and at worst the sympathy of other girls.

3) Much of our attitude and our way of thinking comes from our childhood. If your girl is from a troubled family, there’s a far bigger chance that she’ll have a collection of different insecurities. These could be anything, from a fear of being left alone to clamming up in company, or an inbuilt belief that she isn’t clever, or funny, or can’t do maths, or can’t sing… Anything at all. Too many parents don’t really know how to talk to their children. Worse, too many parents simply *don’t* talk to their chlidren! And too many of them simply don’t know how to develop their children’s confidence in a healthy way. It’s true that all of this applies to men, too; of course it does. But it only adds to the insecurities that all women feel. The pressure to be the best to get ahead in your career is immense — and so is the feeling that the slightest failure proves you’re worthless.

So, how can all this help you with women? Find out more in part 2 which I have just posted: ‘Most Girls Are Insecure: Part 2’.

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Saturday, June 25, 2011

The Shy Guy's Guide to Dating: The Best Places to Meet Women, the Ten Best Pickup Lines, How to Tell if She Likes You, Eleven Women to Avoid, Do's and ... What Girls Say...and What They Really Mean

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How to use your time wisely and put your results on steroids

Author: hypnomatt
HypnoMatt is a Clinical Hypnotherapist and specalises in helping guys with inner game issues. Check his trainer page for more details.

Hey guys

I promise that this post will be shorter than the last one. I think I got RSI from writing the last post.

What I want to talk about today is the topic of wasting time and effort on girls and how you can turn that arround. When you waste time and effort, not only can you never make that time up again, but it also makes you feel crap, lowers your self esteem and makes you less likely to go after the girls who will actually be responsive to you.

Before I learnt about game, I was very much into marketing. I used to be a club and band promoter, this taught me how to make money and focus my efforts on the right people. I believe that a massive part of self esteem comes through getting results. If this is the case shouldn’t we be focused on going for the right types of people which will generate the best results, rather than just hoping for the best?

When I got into promoting bands in Manchester I learnt very quickly that the general population had absolutely no interest in going to see unsigned bands in a pub function room on a Wednesday night. I could have spent a lot of money advertising the gigs on the front of the local papers, but this would have had barely any impact at all. The only people who are interested in seeing unsigned bands (when they are starting out at least) and friends and family of the band members and a few music enthusiasts. I had a system where the bands had to purchase a certain amount of tickets in advance in order to play a gig. This method is also known as “pay to play”. It is hated by musicians as they have to now put in the effort of getting people there as they have a financial investment. However this also meant that every gig I did made money, plus there was always a decent crowd for the bands to play to. I promoted over 100 music events in Manchester and gained a good reputation. Although I used a system that bands didn’t initially like, I still had about a ratio of 3 bands per 1 slot available.

While I was a band promoter I got to meet a lot of interesting characters. One night I was out with a lead singer of a band, who lets say was “unconventional” looking. He was ugly. However he was amazingly successful with girls. He was a very charismatic singer and went to a lot of after parties, a simple yet effective system. One night I was out with him and I spotted a group of 4 girls. I dared him to go over and speak to them. He looked at me totally confused as to why he would do that. He explained that they have no idea who he is and therefore will not be successful. This is when I really started to understand about targeted marketing and going after low hanging fruit. You can take someone who is amazingly successful, but if he is approaching the wrong sort of people then even he will get poor results.

When I first became a hypnotherapist, like most others I decided to cover every single issue under the sun. I used to do everything from weight loss, to stop smoking, to fears and phobias and even such crap as past life regression. I was competing in a cut throat industry and spreading myself far too thinly. I was literally begging people to come and so sessions with me and I used to undercut my competitors on price. I used to work all hours of the day and night and do as the client requested rather than doing the sessions how I wanted to. Then one day I was speaking to a marketing expert, who just did stop smoking sessions. He told me that I had to specialise or I would always find making a living as a therapist hard and I was likely to go out of business. This really resonated with me and I decided to get into what I knew best, social anxiety and self esteem issues.

Once I knew my direction, it allowed me to focus my efforts. I went on every course I could, I read every book on the subject and I shadowed every therapist that would let me. I researched, tried and tested every technique related to anxiety. This is something that I continue to this day and always will. Once I got really good at this type of work I was then able to advertise my services to those people who were actually looking. When you focus your efforts and work with the right people, your results grow exponentially.

So how does this relate to game? Well I see game like marketing and once you break it down and analyse it you can start to improve each part to maximise the results. The product or service that you offer is yourself, the market is the girls you want to be with and then you use game techniques (opening, closing, escalation etc) as the selling process. Once you know your market and how to present yourself best, then your results will drastically improve. Most people have no idea what they are trying to achieve, who they are trying to attract or how to analyse their results. No wonder people feel lost and like giving up.

Ok let me give you an example of what I am talking about. Recently I was working with a client who was Muslim, based in London and was looking to find a girl who he could settle down with and start a family. The girl also had to be Muslim who also had similar life goals. He liked the homely and caring types who didn’t drink and were career focused. He liked girls who were classy, well educated and enjoyed talking about philosophy and religion. He himself was a successful businessman with great prospects. He was a very good catch for someone who wanted to settle down and start a family. He was currently getting really poor results from game, to the extent that he his family were on the brink of arranging a marriage for him.

So where was this guy going to meet his future wife? He currently spent his time going to student nights at crap hole nightclubs in the West End of London. One particular night he went to every week was famous for selling all drinks for £1. See this is where I have to sit back and see if the penny drops, in this case it didn’t so I had to spell it out for him.

I said to him, “So let me make sure I understand. You are looking to meet a Muslim girl who you can settle down with. You don’t like girls who drink, you like the homely type who are well educated and career focused. You also want them to be a good conversationalist who likes to talk about religion and philosophy. Let me ask you, how many of these girls do you think go to a £1 a drink night at a crap hole club during the week?”. He looked rather puzzled and after a few moment he said “probably not that many, but there are lots of girls there”.

Let’s look at this in detail. Say there are 1000 girls in the club, how many are first of all likely to be Muslim? Let’s say 15% (I am just using made up numbers for example’s sake). Out of that 150 how many are likely to be living in London and not a tourist, who don’t drink and are career focused and looking to start a family within the next couple of years. We are probably down to single figures by now. Not only does he have to go and find these girls but he is also facing such issues as loud music, her friends and lots and lots of other guys. No wonder he is getting poor results. As I explained all this to him, he started to understand what I was on about but then looked disheartened. “So you are saying it is a lost cause and I should just give up?” At the moment he was going out 2-3 times a week and opening approximately 15 girls per night. So he was efficient in his approach, however he was not being effective. “No my friend, I suggest you change what you are doing to get better results” was my answer.

We first of all gather some information about the girls he was attracted to and built a bit of a profile about them. We then consulted my best friend in the world, Google. Within minutes we had found a Muslim only dating site, and a Muslim philosophy discussion group that was held in his local area. Within a month of going to these focused events he got into a steady relationship with a great girl. They are still together 6 months later and look set for a great future together. He has not been to a £1 a drink night since and his self esteem is at an all time high.

When you don’t approach game with an analytical attitude then you end up just going out for the sake of it. Without a plan you will of course feel lost and have no idea where you are going wrong or right. Getting numbers will be something of chance and then converting those numbers to dates will be a difficult process. All this leads to wasted effort, poor results which of course turns into low self esteem and lack of motivation.

While in Manchester I became very friendly with a guy who ran a speed dating company. When I asked him why he started to do this, he said it was simple. He was single and he wanted to meet a lot of single girls who were looking to meet guys. He didn’t want to go to the events himself as this would put on the same level as the guys who attended. By organising the events, he not only had all the girls details and could speak to them about dating, but he was also of higher value at the events. To me this is a work of genius.

One common problem I see with guys is the whole “oneitus” AKA unrequited love. Basically when you really like a girl but it has not gone anywhere and is not very likely to happen anyway. People spend so much of their time investing into this one person, that they are now in what I like to call an investment trap. By giving up on this person and going after new people, they feel like all the time leading up to this has been a waste of time and therefore they have to continue. This makes no sense at all and just leads to investing more and more time and therefore strengthening the problem. A good pick up artist knows two things, what kind of girls to go for and when to call it quits.

If you are in an investment trap with a girl, you have to ask yourself “what I am doing, how is it working out so far?”. By continuing to the same things you are likely to get the same results. I advise to change your methods by going out and meeting different people. The one girl who you have invested so much in is actually more likely to be attracted to you if you are not chasing her, but instead dating other girls. You are also likely to meet girls who are even more suited to you once you change your focus.

Ok that is it for today. Think about how you are spending your time and how efficient and effective it is. Time is the one thing you can never get back, and if you are investing too much into one girl, go out and meet more people!

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How to Ensure Success and Avoid Failure

It’s been a LONG time since I’ve written something on my very own blog right here.  I think this is important enough, and if I can convey my ideas on this subject well enough, I might be able to help a lot of guys along their path.  Over the years I’ve seen a lot of people get stuck .  Maybe they make it part of the way to a happy love life and then stall out or regress.  I’ve even seen guys who never really get off the starting blocks despite years of effort.  As a coach, it’s very important for me to understand what they are doing wrong, and now for the first time I can give you my take, and I hope it’ll help you either to avoid a similar fate or confirm that you are on the right track.

What are the 3 major mistakes that the guys who don’t win the game make?

1.  Wrong role models.

Sometimes I watch videos by other “gurus” or meet them face to face.  There are lots of guys that I respect, some are good teachers, some have a lot of great theoretical knowledge, and some have good game.  However there are a ton of guys who are buddies with the right people, are good marketers, and are basically guys who should NOT be listened to.  Sometimes on these videos you can see the guys in the audience furiously taking down notes.  Big mistake.  If you choose the wrong role model, the best you can hope for is to be as good as them.  In some cases these “gurus” have no skill at all with women and are total losers.

When I first started, my role models were the gurus who had qualities that I lacked and respected, not the ones who had the coolest stories, were the most famous, or who bragged the most.  Which ones could I imagine girls being attracted to?  Which ones had some charisma, presence, or other quality that I valued?  When I started getting better, my role models became guys like Steve and Alex. Guys who I noticed because they had amazing strengths in areas that I had weakness.

So the lesson?  Tune your radar correctly, find role models who are guys that have qualities that you don’t, guys you respect.  Not just guys that brag about bagging HB10s on message boards, or who do the circuit of PUA talks but have no real world skill.

Of course an average role model is better than a bad one.  Too many guys only hang around with guys on the same level as them and think that they can all get better together.  While that is possible, in most cases they will fail.  Being friends with someone 10x better than you is a surefire way to get better in that area of life, whether business, pick up, or anything else.  My role models are accountable for over 50% of my success.

Alex and I soon after we met in 2007.

2.  Wrong approach to feedback.

“What she says doesn’t matter”, “just do what you want and if people don’t like it it’s their problem”.  NO!  Feedback is the only way we get better.  Yes you shouldn’t take everything a girl says to heart, or take each rejection personally, but you should objectively look at all feedback and take on board lessons from every failed interaction/relationship.   If you keep telling stories and people get bored, or keep making certain types of jokes and people don’t laugh, or keep failing at the same points in a seduction, then you need to pay attention to the external feedback and make changes.   If you have someone who can harshly critique you, fantastic.  This could be a wing man, your natural friend, or a particularly honest girl who you try to seduce.

A lot of guys work on their inner game so much that they delude themselves into thinking they are good BEFORE they actually are.  Then if someone doesn’t like anything about them it’s obviously the other person’s fault.  This is a real limiter to making progress.  Don’t let your ego get in the way. Each time you either step up the difficulty of the girls you are going for, or try a new environment, you should expect to be bad to begin with.  Feedback and adjusting is the only way to improve.  Plowing through with a “what she says doesn’t matter” attitude is a recipe for disaster.

90% of the time this means you are doing something wrong and you need to figure out what it is and change it, 10% of the time she is having a bad day etc.  We can’t get better without negative feedback.

3.  Focusing on “game” and being a PUA.  The wrong goal.

Being a PUA is lame.  I said it.  Generally you are hanging around with guys who either are bad with women or were bad with women recently, you won’t have many “normal” friends and generally no female friends.  You are WEIRD…but it’s all for a purpose.  You have your wingman, you do your approaches, and you are going to be this weird guy for a short amount of time while you learn all the skills and catch up on all those years you missed out on.  Years when other guys were getting laid and talking to lots of girls.  You get the skills and then you get out.  You make normal friends – cool guys and (importantly) girls, your “game” becomes natural, just who you are.  You learn skills, travel, and do interesting things, become a man who women should be attracted to naturally.  Guys that think it’s cool to always be a PUA are never going to be in the places where all the hot girls are, are not going to be accepted by her friends and family, and are not going to have the huge benefits that being socially connected brings.

4. …and the obvious ones

Not taking action, not trying new things, not pushing yourself, not leaving the house, and all the things you already know.

I hope that helps guys, it took me a few years of watching guys succeed and fail to find the common threads.  Please comment below, I’ll be reading them all.


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There is absolutely no substitute for putting in effort and taking action

Author: hypnomatt
HypnoMatt is a Clinical Hypnotherapist and specalises in helping guys with inner game issues. Check his trainer page for more details.

Hey guys

Thanks for all the emails and comments about the previous blogs.

Today’s blog is all about taking action and quitting your bullshit whining. This blog is going to have some basic common sense tips. If you like follow them and you are likely to get results. Alternatively you can carry on reading theory and making up pointless and ever increasing in size excuses to why you are not taking action.

As men, we don’t like making mistakes especially in front of other people or in a scenario where we could face our ultimate fear, being rejected by a girl we like. This is why only a very small percentage of people who ever get into game will actually go out and apply what they know in field. It is likely that he only time these people will ever try stuff out is when they are a bootcamp or seminar and an instructor is making them do it.

Because of our fear of rejection and doing things wrong, we spend a lot of time learning theory before we even take the first step. In game there is so much contradicting theory that we are often left feeling overwhelmed and confused with the inability to take any action at all. By reading theory it gives us the false pretence and assurance that we are actually doing something, you aren’t! You do NOT learn game by reading books. The only place to learn social skills and game is in field. No if’s, no but’s.

This post is not about being vague, it is about giving you actual action steps. These steps work. I have worked with hundreds and hundreds of clients and been able to monitor their successes over several years. I can only tell you what I have found to work, I can not make you do anything.   

Natural game is NOT just being yourself!

I have a lot of guys telling me that they want to be natural. They seem to think that by being natural it means they don’t have to change anything about themselves. Being natural at something simply means being very good at a skill set. It does not mean you keep doing what you are already doing. What you are currently doing isn’t working, if it was you would not be reading about these materials.

I do not believe in having what the industry refers to as “canned patterns” or “routines”. I do however believe in being very well prepared and being very good at the skills we teach. If you follow what we tell you, then it will improve your results. If you learn all the skills from opening, transitioning, kino, conversation, elicitation and persuasion, closing, text/email/phone game, dates and escalation then you will become “natural” at meeting women. Each part of game is broken down into small parts. You need to learn them all and practice. You simply can not expect to become a natural without actually learning these skills.

I like to think of natural game as like learning the guitar. You do not become “natural” until you learn how the instrument works and you follow the scales, chords and sequences. Only when you are very good, do you appear to be “natural”. It takes a lot of work to make something look easy.

The future is NOT going to be ok without change

A lot of people who I work with have a romantic idea of the future, which allows them to be lazy in the present. People take a bootcamp thinking it will be the complete solution, it isn’t. Taking a bootcamp is not a solution to a problem, it is a training event to show you how things work. Simply attending any training event and then going home and not making any changes, will not deliver any results. Not long term at least anyway.

If you do not start to plan for the future, then things are going to get worse and worse. The longer you leave it to take any action at all, the less likely you ever take any action. Putting of actually making tangible changes because you first of all want to attend a certain course, read a book or watch a DVD etc will always keep you stuck. There will always be another course to take and another product to buy. There will not be any new breakthroughs and learning more theory will only make you more overwhelmed than you are now.

Just remember, all the time you are at home going through theory night after night. There are other guys meeting and seducing the women that you desire.

You can not therapy your way out of this.

As a therapist I take a very strong view of taking action to get over and past problems. Most often the simplest answer is the correct one to take. If you are not meeting new people, then you need to go out more and to different places. If you are overweight, you need to lose weight. If you are badly dressed, you need to see a stylist. If you live in a boring place, you need to move. We don’t make up the rules, we simply follow them to gain maximum effect.

Therapy does have its place, especially change work (what I specialise in). However if you do not couple therapy with taking action, then once again you will not make any real changes in your life. You do not get over social anxiety by hiding away from the world, you need to integrate into society in a slow and methodical way.

What you are already doing is not working

When we work with guys, we often hear things like “this just isn’t me”, or “it feels weird”. Yes, that is because you are doing new things. If you want to change your results, you need to change your method.

Let’s take a simple scenario of going up to a girl to ask her where Starbucks is. A standard PUA functional approach. Going up to a beautiful girl and asking her where somewhere is may feel weird, only because what you usually do is see her, not approach and then beat yourself up about not approaching afterwards.

What you are dong isn’t working. You need to change your method. We help guys with step by step strategies on how to meet and speak with girls. Once you have done this a LOT and had constructive criticism then it feels fun and natural. The good feelings come as a result, not a precursor. 

No one cares about your excuses

Your excuses keep you stuck and no one cares about them. A good example is a guy I was with the other day who’s facebook profile was terrible. There were loads of pictures of him out in clubs looking really drunk. I told him he should remove 95% of all his pictures because they are likely to put high quality girls off. His response is that it is his friends who tag him. My response “it is YOUR profile, you are responsible for it!”.

When I work in therapy I charge by the hour. If the client is more than 10 minutes late I cancel their appointment but still charge them. I need the full hour with the client to be able to do my work. I am always on time and I live about an hour away from my clinic. Whatever someone’s excuse is, I do not accept it. Not knowing where the clinic is, the tube line being closed, stuck in traffic etc are all the problems of the client.

So why do I take such a harsh approach, because I see things in black or white. I have an engineering background and in my view something is either a 1 or a 0. There is absolutely no grey area. Excuses are all in the 0 category. You either approached the girl or you didn’t, you either went for the close or you didn’t. All the reasons why are meaningless, they just allow you to feel better about not taking action.

Stop giving yourself excuses and learn the art of self discipline. No one is going to take care of you, you need to man up and face reality. When I work with people and I tell them what steps to take, I always get responses like “but I am lazy”, “I procrastinate”, “I am not self disciplined”, “I can’t be bothered”. I have a standard response to all of these justifications; “I could not give a shit about your pathetic excuses. Whether you do what I show you or not, I still get paid. It is 100% up to you to get off your ass and start putting these things into action. All the time you are sitting around moping, other guys are out there seducing the girls that you desire”.

Keep it simple and one step at a time 

One of the reasons I love working on the PUA Training bootcamp is because we take things one step at a time. We teach opening, then we take guys out and get them opening. We work like this all through the weekend, teaching then applying.

When learning game men always read all the theory yet take no action. Too many options usually leads to no option being taken at all. By reading book after book, you fill your head with information but you do not take the actions to turn this into knowledge. It is time to take a step back, look at what you are doing and working on things one step at a time.

Look at the materials we provide, read Richards book and see the steps. Work on the first step, get it mastered and then move on. There is no reason to learn about transitioning, kino or escalation if you are unable to go and open a single girl.

Learning game is not an overnight success, it is an evolution. You need to take things slowly and make it part of your daily life. We live in an on demand society where we want things right away. Slow down, make realistic goals and work hard on them before moving on.

The girls you desire are not going to come and find you 

If you want top quality girls, then you are going to have to earn them. No amount of affirmation, asking the universe or learning theory will ever make this happen. The basics of PUA are all centred around biological attraction and natural selection. Attraction is not a choice, it is how the species procreates. 

Conclusion 

We can show you what works, we are not saying it is right or wrong, it is just what works. I often have guys email me saying how unfair things are and why their problems are special. I have had numerous arguments on forums over the same things. We don’t make the rules, but they apply to us all. You can either argue against them, or learn how they work and use them to your advantage.

So what needs to happen for you to start taking action? What action will you take first? If you don’t take this action, how will your life go?

This is the time to realise you are 100% responsible for your own actions and what you do in life. The world will not chance to suit your needs, you have to adapt to it.

Make a plan, get on with it, stop whinging.

Matt Kendall (Hypnomatt)


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Friday, June 24, 2011

Want a rock star lifestyle? Nope, me neither.

Author: hypnomatt
HypnoMatt is a Clinical Hypnotherapist and specalises in helping guys with inner game issues. Check his trainer page for more details.

Hey guys

A lot of the pick up world seems to focus on getting rock star lifestyle. Rocking up to some high end club with 20 girls in tow, sitting at a private table, drinking champagne and having an after party until the wee hours at some penthouse apartment. This sounds lovely, but I have found that a lot of men, including myself, have absolutely no desire to live this kind of lifestyle.

So what happens to us regular dudes who just want to meet a nice girl and have a relationship? Are we boring? If so will learning game help or hinder our success with finding a girl whom we are compatible with?

The first question to ask yourself is what do you want? Some guys do want to go out and live the rock star life, and that is cool. Learning game is certainly going to help you to achieve this to some degree. I however take a different take on this. I don’t really like clubs, I don’t drink, I don’t like people who go to clubs, I don’t like staying out that late and I like to get up the next day and do things rather than feel like crap. I like more boring activities such as exploring London, spending time with friends, going to gigs and events, organising seminars and workshops, drinking nice coffee and eating out. Hardly rock ‘n’ roll, but I like it.

If you have recently got into game and are now thinking that you have to go out to bars and clubs to meet people, then rest assured that this is not the case. If you are looking to kiss and f close girls, then yes going out to these types of venues are your best bet. But if you are looking for a relationship, then I advise using the skills you learn in game and putting them to use in other places.

One thing you can not avoid is going out and talking to people. You do not learn social skills and game by sitting and home and reading articles like this. You learn it by going out and being with people, the right sort of people. I truly believe that inner game and confidence is built upon success rather than this weird notion that we have to go out and fail 99%. I don’t like failing at things and I try to avoid it when possible. I like to plan things then put them into action.

If you are looking to make a genuine connection with a girl then you are going to have patience. Love at first sight is very rare, instead love usually takes a while to develop through spending time with someone. I have found that the vast majority of people I know in relationships met their partners in one of 4 ways. Those ways of meeting were; educational facility (school, university, college etc), social circle (friends or friends of friends), at work or through a shared hobby or passion. I don’t know many people in relationships who met their partner in a bar or club.

If you are not in education, have exhausted your social circle and there is no one at work that suits you, then you need to look at taking up some new interests and hobbies. If you continue to spend your time with the same people then you are not likely to get any different results. You need to look at what you are doing, the results it is getting you and how you can make changes.

I worked with a client a few months ago who wanted to get back into a relationship. He is a rather quite guy, works in finance and enjoys nothing more than long country walks and cooking. He was rather disheartened with his pick up results as he was meeting loud and obnoxious women who weren’t his type. To be fair he was going to dingy crap clubs and meeting very drunk women. He doesn’t like clubbing, he should never have been in that environment.

When it comes to meeting people you are likely to have a connection with, you need to focus your efforts. My favourite resource is www.meetup.com. There are other similar websites such as City Socialising and Spice. These sites are like portals, a place where you can meet people with similar interests. You can also read your weekly entertainment listings as well as checking online directories.

My best advice is to get known within some sort of scene instead of just going to general events. One guy emailed me last week to say he is going out 4 times a week but unable to build a solid social circle. He is going to singles events and after work drinks type of stuff, so there is not much substance to hold the group together. To get the best results you need to think about a scene or something more substantial to get interested and involved in.

What is important is that whatever you decide to do, you should be doing it through interest and not just to meet women. If you current go to places you don’t really enjoy just to meet girls, than this will shine through. Guys who go to salsa classes are a classic example of this. If you have a genuine interest in something then this will shine through and real and genuine connections can be made, not only with potential partners but new guy friends too.

Some great activities that I have found to work really well with guys who I have monitored over the years include;

Classes and courses. Everything from learning a new language to self development seminars.  

Arts and crafts. Taking up photography, painting, dancing and other creative activities.    

Music. Either playing an instrument or going to see gigs. People bond effortlessly over music especially when it is a love of the same kind e.g. ska, rap, acoustic etc. The more niche the better.

Charity/volunteer work. Getting involved with some sort of charity activity or event. Sponsored runs and events always bring people together.

Sport. Getting involved with a sport or outdoor pursuit helps to unite people.

If you are not a fan of bars and clubs then I advise to stay out of them. Focus your attention on meeting people in places where you are going to have a real reason to talk and let the connection form more naturally over a longer period of time.

Please remember, you meet very few people at home. The girls and the life you desire are not going to come and find you.

Matt Kendall (hypnomatt)


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Humor

Power is the ultimate aphrodisiac.

-Henry Kissinger

If you can make a girl laugh, you can make her do anything.

-Marilyn Monroe

Humor, what causes laughter, and how to be funny is the subject of countless books and articles.  All of the ones I’ve read are wrong.  Either they point to the wrong thing, or they say no one knows, or no one CAN know.  Maybe, but here’s my hypothesis.  Be warned, it’s a frame control addicts excuse to go truly rabid.

People laugh to disperse tension, this is the function of laughter.  There are other things that can relieve tension, such as sex or violence.  If tension is NOT dispersed, awkwardness ensues.

I think of awkwardness as the feeling people get when they are forced into an uncommonly limited set of responses.  Specifically a set of responses which do not include a choice that releases tension.  Thus when a really polite guy tells a girl he just met he likes her, it’s awkward, while when I tell a girl I just met I want to put a baby in her, it’s not.  In the first case, she HAS to be nice, she’s FORCED to give a polite negative response she doesn’t have an autopilot pattern for. In the second case, she can tell me to fuck off, act like it’s a joke, act like I’m serious, laugh, ect.  Awkwardness is being boxed in.

Laughter is what happens when something unexpected occurs that must be addressed, and the group decides to release the tension rather than let it manifest as awkwardness. Why isn’t this done all the time? Because laughter is a temporary loss of control.  (Keep in mind this is all a subconscious process.)

When someone says something unexpected, observers ping for the perceived social value differential between their current imprint and that of the person who has just spoken.  If the person delivering the joke has more PSV (perceived social value,) or has established enough comfort, the observer releases tension by laughing. If not, they maintain tension, and awkwardness ensues.

Some things, such as applications of the absurd, clever uses of language, and magic, cause a sort of glitch in the brain. Laughter results, but it is STILL a release of tension, and it is STILL caused by something unexpected being observed.

The advantage though, is that the PVD (perceived value differential) is far less important because it is not the man, but the material, “making” them laugh.  There is still a strong correlation, however, as David Blaine and Conan O’Brian, who have monstrous PSV, will get far better reactions with the same material and delivery than someone without such high PSV.

This explains both why the guy at the top of the social circle gets the most laughs, often for things that are not funny, and also why most people aren’t funny at all. Because they have been conditioned NOT to say things that deviate very far from what is expected. The more unexpected the statement, the more potentially funny; and the more potentially awkward.

How do we learn to BE funny?
Same way we learn to BE naturally attractive.
By eliminating the Ego, learning to be 100% expressive, making a habit of saying whatever pops into our heads, and not hanging around people who will condition us to avoid such behaviors.
This is an instance where your old friends who see themselves and you as “normal” will really stunt growth, as they will impose limiting beliefs on you and punish you for acting outside the box they have constructed for you.

The easiest way to start is something I learned from Russell Brand.
Substitute an uncommonly used word or phrase for a commonly used one.
People are always constructing an expectation about what’s about to happen.
When you foil that expectation, tension is created.

Example:
(You’re at starbucks ordering coffee)
“Hello, I’m thirsty, I’d like a latte.”
Vs
“Hello, I’m thirsty, I’d like some sort of caffeinated libation.”

The first request is utterly predictable, the second often elicits a smile or giggle, simply because it breaks the pattern of boredom and predictability that permeates the poor barista’s existence.
This is unlikely to make a girl crack up, but it’s also unlikely to cause her to be rude, or to hold the tension and create awkwardness either.

On the other hand:
“Hey, you had such a nice body I had to come over here and see what your personality was like.”
Vs
“Hey, you had such a nice personality I had to come over here and see what your body is like.”

The first is just kinda sleezy, the second, which is unexpected and satirical, has a lot more upside, but can result in a much rougher response if the girl does not feel you are “good enough” to act that way.  (Keep in mind this isn’t a conscious process of assessment, people aren’t generally aware that they will applaud behavior in some people and condemn the same behaviors in others.)

When studying breaking rapport, you’re essentially studying ways to exhibit unpredictable behavior. Rapport is a feeling of understanding the other person, so what is not expected by definition breaks rapport. The more outlandish the break, the more attraction it will inspire; but the more value or comfort you must have for the girl to be willing to laugh and disperse the tension. The smaller the break, the less tension is creates, and the more likely a woman will be to relieve that tension. The less attraction or compliance you have once the woman assesses you, the smaller the breaks you must use to ensure her natural response is to relieve tension rather than hold it and create awkwardness. If the tension you create is suitably small, it will be socially unintelligent of her not to relieve it. (Keep in mind there are two sides to this: her laughter response is not conscious, while her compliance response is.)

Everyone sees patterns, that’s how the brain functions.  Anything that defies expectation breaks the anticipated patten and creates tension.  Tension must be released to avoid awkwardness.  Laughter is the easiest way to release tension.  A man who can inspire laughter is a man who can control the people around him.

Till next time guys,
If you don’t know what to say, just say something.
Love ya!
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Are you tired of getting put into the friend zone by women?

If you have ever been stuck in the friend zone you know how frustrating, depressing and agonizing it can be! And then you watch as the woman your are so into sometimes even in love with goes off and hooks up with some jerk or asshole. While you’re moaning from heartbreak she’s moaning in pleasure while he defiles her 8 different ways!

Then when he dumps her she often comes back to tell you the story and cry on your shoulder! And just when you think she is going to wake and she you for her dream guy he calls her back now that he got a new bottle of Viagra all you get is the F—ing check at the end of dinner and a distant hug! And the torment goes on!

What you don’t know is that the very fact that she is friends with you and is willing to hang out with you generally means that at some point when she first met you she had already said to herself in her mind “I’d have sex with him.” And then YOU SCREWED IT ALL UP! And then you were then put into the friends zone!

Don’t feel bad I have done it myself many times before I discovered through trial and error, and lot of going over tons of interactions with with a fine tooth comb looking for clues and traces of where I went wrong and where I went right.

The Good News is that you don’t have to suffer in the friend zone anymore or learn through trial and error like I did. Because I have not only put all of my secrets into my “No More Friend Zone” Issue but I have also included over two hours of candid uncensored interviews with attractive women where they reveal how men screw up turn them off and literally force them to put guys into the friend zone!

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Thursday, June 23, 2011

What a woman told me about being commited and monogamy

I went out with very insightful woman last week. Who said she had different views on relationships and monogamy than her girlfriends. I asked her to explain.

She said “Men should not be forced to be Monogamous” In shock and awe of this brilliant woman I asked “Why?” she said “it’s not natural for them” and  “you can be his friend and have the truth and a great relationship or try to control him and be lied to.”

She also understood that to men having a fling keeps his sex drive alive where monogamy generally kills it so the woman in the relationship also suffers.

I asked her if that meant that she should also not be monogamous she replied “No, when I’m in a relationship I don’t want anyone else.” And  “If most women thought like this there would be almost no divorces.” I agreed!

The stats support what she’s saying. Sure some monogamous men are happy. But most if you talked to are actually tolerant rather than happy, becuase they believe and have been brainwashed to believe they have no other option or choice.

And it’s not proven that committed men live longer. Men in relationships live longer, that does not mean they have never had sex with anyone else. I’m not at all against relationships. I have been in several both monogamous and open and both were wonderful times in my life.

For MOST men the dating world sucks, they risk the rejection, spend the money ( I don’t spend money on a woman until I know she’s into me, then I’m very generous), most of the really attractive women out there are low quality in all of the other areas so approach with caution! (ask any experienced man and he’ll tell you the same.)

Many of those married men that look so happy, are not monogamous they don’t wear signs saying “I cheat.” And neither do women.

Some men do find women they are 100% into and are 90% compatible with and it’s so good that it’s easier to fight the desire to be with another women.

But for most it’s not the case. 66% of marriages end in divorce. And I don’t think I have ever met a married man that didn’t tell me “Don’t get married!”

And no I’m not the last word and her view is certainly not the norm for a woman. The last word lies with each individual. I’m just a person looks at the reality of the situation as a whole and every man I have ever had a serious talk about this with says the same thing “I want my wife but I’d like to have sex with another woman once in a while” It’s like a pressure that builds up and needs to be released. You either release it or have an explosion.

The one’s getting some on the side are MUCH happier than the ones that don’t for the most part, unless they have guilt issues.

Anyway I don’t agree that most women will agree with this. Only maybe those that do therapy with men, or prostitutes as both see the sides of men they hide from the women in their life. Or maybe women like my friend that some how has also come to the same conclusion through what ever means of observation of the reality of the situation.

The few women I have met that share this view or were raised to and they are much happier and less stressed out and my friend above that told me her view is one such woman.

What really needs to happen is Men as whole and to just come out and say “ENOUGH! this is how we are deal with it!” and end the lies and pretense. Because you can never be true to someone else if you are not true to yourself.

Most men want a relationship but we are wired to want to have sex with other women by nature. Nature will ALWAYS prevail over social conditioning, social contracts,etc… Look around at all of the evidence. Disagree all you like but the fact and static and behavior of people speak the reality of the situation.

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Wednesday, June 22, 2011

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Pickup Artist: The Familiar Approach

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Gunwich Method (read it here for free)

Okay, so you want to  get laid more, right?  Of course. Maybe you are a fan of other pickup artists and discovered me through their websites, or maybe this is your first venture into the methods of seduction. Maybe you found me through ASF (alt.seduction.fast) newsgroup, and you were one of the guys who requested and demanded an outline, or more of a specific manual of my style.  Well anyway, you’ve now found my methods.

I will tell you a little about myself, my name is Allen Reyes (known as ‘gunwitch’ on mASF).  In case you wonder my name is derived from the fact that I am an avid hand-gunner as well as a 15-year practitioner and student of seduction and PU (pick ups), “real” witchcraft, magick, state manipulation and all ranges of the “influence” sphere. I started out using simple psychology, then NLP (neural linguistic programming), and eventually evolved a much simpler understanding of girls and methods of dealing with them, which has been gained through psychology and human study, but even more so through years of interactive analysis.

What “simpler understanding” you may ask? Well after YEARS and YEARS of study, fieldwork, and seductions, the thing that led me here was that I conquered my weight problem. I am 5’7? (5’9” in my “field” boots) and used to weigh a “power lifter styled” mix of muscle and fat that was 230 pounds.  I was not a pretty picture to look at, hence my study of seduction.  I finally got down to a leaner, muscular 185lbs. This is when I noticed a massive change in dealing with girls.  They made it easier – less testing, less flake outs, and less overall resistance to my sexing them.

I had always been taught that it is not the product, but the marketing, that gets someone to buy something. I had always learned that “it’s what’s on the inside” that counts.  Also, that “girls think different than guys”, “females don’t really like sex so it doesn’t matter what you look like, but more what you say or make them feel”.  Comforting words for a typical unattractive man, But not something that produces results for the said guy.

Maybe you ae saying “but then what am I gonna do???  I’m an ugly, short or fat fucker!”  Well the same understandings and methods I discovered with the understanding that chicks LOVE sex, just as much as men do is gonna be your key to getting them as well. There are methods and tactics that will get you sex with HOT women even if you are less than average in looks. The same methods I and other semi attractive guys can use to land 8-10 scale girls without hardly any rejection can be used by you to land the same women with just a little more effort, and a little more rejections.

I in so many words finally started selling a higher quality product, and in doing so learned what the reaction and interactions were like when she wanted to buy, and already knew what they were when it was gonna be a difficult sell. By becoming attractive it was easier for me to learn how to convey that I was.

Since then, I’ve trained guys who were ugly, fat, average and good looking to do the same things I do and gotten them laid FAST without much study at all or any improvement to their looks.

So give this a chance, if you wanna get laid with some good looking bitches.

Section 1:

The first understanding you must have, is what I mean when I refer to a “state”. I simply mean your state of mind, the feelings in your body, and the overall YOU at any given moment. Can you recall a time, the last time that you were totally HOT and HORNY for a woman – to the point you had an erection, felt slight pain in your stomach, how you looked at her, and how you were thinking at the moment.  What did that feel like?  You were in “sexual state” at that point.

Section 2:

Women think VERY similarly, and operate biologically quite the same sexually as men. Since biblical times, women have been conditioned by society that this is wrong though.  They put on a mask that conforms to social norms.  The “slut” “whore” or promiscuous woman who has many sexual partners is actually superior in her lack of suggestibility compared to regular women who maintain monogamous relationships because of societal expectations. Things had not been this way in the human mating ritual prior to the last 2-5000 years. Beta (inferior less attractive) males who happened to be intellectually superior set up misogynistic arranged marriages, barter systems for financial ownership of wives, religious persecution and moral persecution for women who enjoyed sex with the alpha (superior more attractive) males, as a means of being able to secure sex for themselves with no alpha competition.

Today, religion, moral conduct, and societal expectations cannot RULE the female sex drive, nor her instincts and her desires by force. This leads us ALL to a problem. Women seek and choose long term relationships with only the most desirable of men. They often try to entrap the alpha male into unnatural sex commitments, while giving the beta male no sex because they want to have one partner, and do not want it to be a beta male. Kinda backfired on them cheeky little shit heel betas didn’t it?

Now women “cheat” when they want sexual variety and then are scorned by society as “sluts” or “unfaithful bitches”, despite the reality that it’s just natural for a sexually healthy human being to want variety in sex partners.

It is VITAL to have the understanding that women (sexually healthy non frigid women) LOVE sex and desire it just as much as we do. YET they cannot come out and admit it or be labelled a slut, AND cannot act on it consistently (outside of long term relationships or with multiple partners)  with anyone’s knowledge or be labelled the same far faster. Of course, as of late, more and more women are admitting their desire for sex and acting on it more casually.

Section 3:

The lone wolf.

Approaching single, lone women will be the staple of you sexual diet. Attempting to seduce women while in the company of others, her friends, your friends, and other people in general is often a dumb idea.  “WHY”, you ask?  Read section 2 again. They want sex, they want sex NOW with almost any guy who isn’t obese or deformed, but they do not want the world to know, and they will start to think “if I do this what will it make THEM think”, rather than “do I trust this guy” “am I attracted to this guy” and “what is he making ME feel sexually”.  Reading this material from the standpoint of applying it at a party or in front of 2-3 women at a time will make it seem unworkable.  So read from the perspective of you and a single lone (isolated) woman, or distanced from others (semi isolated), and it will come into focus.

Section 4:

Your initial state when seeing women you want is very important:  the right one will cause you to approach them, the wrong one will panic and confuse you – preventing you from taking any action to ever meet them. If you do not meet them you almost certainly CANNOT have sex with them. Your internal state when you first see an attractive woman must be one of sexual enthusiasm, horniness, and unapologetic desire. NOT one of panic and wonder of what to do or what to say. When you first see your lone wolf, in a bar, a coffee house, a dept store, a bank, the gym -ANYWHERE – (I like the magazine racks at dept stores, where I can stand there and wait ‘til some Cosmo magazine reading hottie comes into what feels to her like your space, and feels like she’s approaching,  then boom I’m on it “so what ya reading?”), anyway ANYWHERE you see them you must imagine having sex with her, visualize it, feel the desire and lust.  ALWAYS do this as soon as you see a woman you find attractive and eventually the state you will go into when seeing a woman will be one of –sexual- state, rather than panic or fear of meeting her. This makes approaching random lone women easier. Ted Bundy, the infamous serial killer/sociopath didn’t feel fear or panic when he saw a target.  He felt rage, sexual perversion and desire to kill, hence NO fear to approach them, of course wanting to have sex isn’t the same thing, but its still more effective than feeling fear or confusion about your desires and direction.

One thing ill mention here. I cannot give you real desire for sex, it must be natural. If you could have a new ULTRA 10 hot bodied perfect woman in your bed every night, yet EVERYONE else would see her as a nasty ugly fat girl, would you still do it? NO I’m not gonna alter you in some supernatural way for you to think ugly women are good looking. If you said “no” to this question though, you need to evaluate if you want women for shared sexual gratifications, or if you want them to impress friends, family and co workers? Do you wanna be a “ladies man” A “seduction master?” the “scoring machine” amongst your buds? Of course, who doesn’t? But is that more of a concern than actually having good sex with women you find attractive? If so then you need to A. stop masturbating so much (to increase your drive), B. search yourself to see if you are a real heterosexual, C. maybe consider getting an “arm piece” girlfriend for the social status you desire, D. learn to quench your lusts with sexual gratification rather than keep trying to create envy in others, as you’ll never be convinced you’ve done enough of that. If you want and desire new, exciting, frequent sexual experiences with different fresh women then read on.

Section 5:

Understand that women do not have some kind of special intuition about people, see Ted Bundy example above for proof.  A lot of crap floats around about female minds being different or more intuitive, “they can smell an agenda” “if you don’t come from a genuine place of curiosity and care they will reject you” blah blah blah.  You WANT them to “smell your agenda” of wanting sex, this is a GOOD thing, as long as it isn’t verbalized.  This is what women call a “subtle confident man”.  I will discuss how to MAKE her understand your intentions WITHOUT words later on. It is a good thing for her to know you want sex, without you being tacky and verbalizing it (making her reject you because of her societal conditioning mentioned earlier).

Section 6:

Looks count, though perhaps not as much as is typically presumed.  As was discussed in Section 2, women think MUCH like men when it comes to mating.

To illustrate my point on this:

Imagine being alone in a room, with an ugly or mediocre woman.  She comes over and lays her head on your lap.  You hear her whisper, “I like you a lot”.  She smiles, comes up, and kisses you. Your friends are not there, and they will never know.  You are getting more turned on as she rubs your upper legs, inching closer, closer, and closer to your crotch.  What are you gonna do to stop her?  Answer this only to yourself – not to friends or people who could judge you – and you’ll know that you’d likely have sex with her.  ONLY in the case that she is nearly deformed, smells bad, or is morbidly obese ect., would you be likely to turn her down.  Essentially, you’d only turn her down if she failed turn you on at that time.

To further explicate, consider the following.  Not an exact science by any means, but perhaps a rough model of what you can generally expect.

Looks, Effort, and their Interrelation:

Looks scale:  -1- being the worst conceivable, and –10- being the best.
Effort scale (amount of women approached and overall drive to ensure sex with them): -1- being utterly rarely, -5- being a few on weekends or acquaintances from social circles, and -10- being at least three new women per day. –1- drive = will say hello to a woman but not much else, -5- will try to  get her interested in him until the first sign of trouble or disinterest, -10- will outright make her become angry or verbally reject you 100% before even considering moving on.

Take a guy who is a –1- in looks (perhaps fat, short, hideous face, balding, old, smelly, poorly dressed, etc.), but a -10- in effort.  This guy will STILL land women who are -5.5s- once in while, and –3s- frequently.

To explain, allocate 1 total point for every 2 points on the scale, for what you can get with maximum effort.  So, if you are a –10- in looks, but only exert a –1- in effort, you can probably still sex -5.5s- (ie. 11 divided by 2) on occasion, and approximately half of that, or -3s-, whenever you are inclined.  Eventually you will arrive at someplace in between your –maximum- capacity and your –easy- capacity for your regular quality of women.

I, for instance, am maybe an –8- in looks (short, ok face, good built body, well dressed and groomed), and a –10- in effort.   So dividing by two, we allocate 4 points for looks and 5 points for effort, arriving at a 9 at –maximum- capacity, and approx. 5 at –easy- capacity.  I have of course gotten some 10s in my day, but that’s just the deviation, as women higher than 6 would be for Example Guy #1.  So to recap:

Example Guy 1:

-1-LOOKS  +  -10-EFFORT = 11,

THEREFORE,

MAXIMUM CAPACITY = 5.5, EASY CAPACITY = approx. 3

Gunwitch:

-8-LOOKS + -10-EFFORT = 18,

THEREFORE,

MAXIMUM CAPACITY = 9, EASY CAPACITY = approx. 5

What creates the extra points from effort is that you meet MORE women, so SOME of these women will find even the guy with –1-looks/-10-effort somewhat attractive. Probably the best that he will ever do is a 6 who somehow finds him attractive.  Mr –10-looks/-1-effort could go out approaching at a 5.5 in effort and change his whole lot, because he would meet so many more women who would find him attractive, or who have trouble saying no to his advances, but instead he takes the easy ones.  His loss. By the way, Mr.-10-looks/-1-effort, and Mr. –1-looks/-10-effort are both REAL people that I know, and it works out about the same for both of them with women. If Mr. –1-looks/-10-effort suddenly stopped meeting and trying to seduce new women, he would probably go to his grave never having had sex again, unless maybe with some chance woman of his low calibre were to come along and make the effort herself.

Section 7:

There are –many- ideas about seduction, getting laid, having a lot of women, ect, that can be debated and contested.  But there is –one- that cannot be by anyone with any rational thought process. You MUST make an effort.  Specifically, you must approach women on the street, at gyms, dept stores, bars, nightclubs and any other venues you can come up with.  Sure you can get a job working with women or a gimmick to try to attract them to you, but its 5% as effective as actually doing the work, and having the will and drive.  Simple logic, which can escape from you if you over-complicate your style of dealing with women. Don’t just sit and memorize materials til the end of time, get out and apply things you learn. HARDEST part to do in any area of life. WILLPOWER to try is more important than any formula for success.

I’m gonna do you a huge favour right here in this section. Maybe give you ultimate success with women maybe save you from reading any further and wasting your time. Decide will you A, go out and try this stuff on AT LEAST 1 woman within the next week, and at least 1 every week after that? OR, will you stop reading now and decide you don’t really  have the willpower to try?

Of course if you KNOW you are just reading this for the hell of it, and don’t wanna have sex with lots of women that’s fine. But don’t read it, question it, analyze it and determine it can’t work for you, get up and do something.

Section 8:

As HARPED on above you MUST approach.  Moreover, you MUST be in “sexual state” or be turned-on/horny for your target.  Any fear of doing so must be quelled by the realization that she wants sex just as much as you do, though maybe not with you, and that the way society is structured it is YOUR job to initiate the encounter and find out.  The sexual state, along with the realization that she wants sex, will make you do MOST if not ALL of the actions necessary to be your most attractive all by themselves.

It exudes a “confidence” that,

makes you speak with a better more attractive tone of voice (bedroom voice)causes you to hold eye contact better and more sensuallycauses you to touch her more and more sexually (getting her ready for the sexual encounter)causes you to keep a level of physical closeness that builds a strong sense of comfort in hercauses you to not pander or be a beggar (as you realize are just as valuable sexually), so,you don’t buy her drinks like the rest of the losers doyou don’t give insincere compliments like the rest of the losers doyou don’t pander to her to entertain like the rest of the losers doyou don’t brag like the losers doyou don’t come off sexually androgynous and hide your masculinity like the losers do

And as a result of all this, you are not branded yet another everyday chump hitting on her.

Your single-minded intention, body language, and sexuality prevents the bad “loser” type actions, and nurtures the seductive ones – all in one single state.  You are branded a sexual being, boyfriend material, sexual material, IF the requisite physical attraction is there.

Section 9:

I will now attempt to give you some grasp of the above seductive behaviours that will create an optimum level of attraction, and some grasp of those that will make you seem a loser or move things in the wrong directions.

Operating under an understanding that women love sex, need their desires filled the same as men, and shouldn’t be paid or rewarded for something they want to share just as much as you do, will allow you to avoid the damning behaviours covered in section 9.

9.1 Chump or champ?  The chump thinks women “GIVE” a man sex because its more important to them, and they should be paid for it by means such as “dates” undeserved compliments, humour, entertainment ect.  A champ knows women love sex just as much as men so therefore the gift that is given in return for sex with a woman is the sex itself.  Which are you?  When was the last time you complimented a woman?  Was it a woman that you wanted sex with?  Have you ever complimented a woman you didn’t want sex with?  Have you ever complimented someone for something other than their appearance?  Ask yourself these questions and you’ll know if you are acting like a chump or a champ.

9.2 Do you brag around women?  Well stop it if you do. If she isn’t attracted to you, and even if she is, this isn’t moving things into any kind of a sexual encounter.  It is a waste of time and energy to brag, as everyone can see it when someone does it, and takes the claims made as lies, even if they are true. BE SEXUAL, as this serves to project without words that you are good in bed, well endowed, and worthwhile enough to be this confident. Of course don’t put yourself down either. This is very powerful knowledge that I’m giving you here, which few people know, and since I have a 130 IQ I can decipher this type of thing.

See that was bragging and it was kinda lame huh? That was a joke, and ALSO not a good idea during a seduction. Here is why……

9.3 A commonly observed scenario: a woman laughs at guy’s jokes, and then ends up having sex with him later on.  Predictably, every guy there says, “She must like a guy with a sense of humour”, and proceed to go out and ENTERTAIN, rather than seduce women, in hopes that she will like them SOOO much she will jump his bones right there. Not gonna happen unless she is VERY attracted.  We wanna work with what looks we have and move them in the right directions for sex better than other guys, not create a non sexual rapport with jokes and funny stories.

When a woman is asked “what do you like in a guy?”, she doesn’t usually  say “LOOKS and GOOD SEX” or else be branded a slut.  SO, she grumbles “a guy with a sense of humour”.  She LIKES those funny men, she doesn’t HAVE SEX WITH those funny men unless they happen to be attractive as well as funny. By the way, when a woman says “confidence” that’s as close to saying ” a guy who knows I wanna have sex and creates the opportunity for it aggressively” as women usually get.  Don’t listen to what women (or men) say, but rather observe what they do, and your eyes will not deceive or confuse you like your mind’s interpretations of the words will. A sense of humour isn’t a bad thing, but its not sexually motivating or progressive. Stand up comedians are often natural entertainers because they have learned that their poor looks can be accepted that way.  Check stand or bar stool comedians are the same entity with less talent.  At the end of the night they go home and fuck the sleeve of their favourite jacket rather than a woman.  Some people say “nice guys finish last”, because they see the funny entertainer go home alone.  While the horny aggressive “jerk” gets the woman sexually turned on and moves her into isolation with him, rather than entertaining her endlessly in public.

9.4 Payment based behaviours such as buying drinks for women at bars, giving them flowers, fixing their things, driving them places you aren’t going with her to, are all LOSER actions. Of course people like things like this, but these things conveys to her sexuality as “he isn’t valid sexually because he is a poor lover or has a small penis, so he pays for sex with gifts of his time and money, he is a beta male”. During ALL initial encounters with women, if requests are made for anything, ask yourself “would I do this for a causal acquaintance or male stranger?”  If your answer is “no”, then don’t do it.  Of course you might buy a good friend accompanied to a bar a drink, but would you really buy a male stranger a drink? Didn’t think so, unless it was to PAY him for something. Wanna test it out? Go buy 10 women at a bar a drink, and see if you don’t walk out alone with 4-5 “thank yous”, a glare, and 4-5 waves of astonishment for your troubles.  Do it 100 times and you may get a girl that’s REALLY attracted to you that will engage sex with you,  but you’ve now paid 500 dollars (5 bucks a drink) to get there. Go to a brothel if you want to pay for sex like a lowly ‘john’.

9.5 Reading her palm, doing a psychic “cold reading”, doing a handwriting analysis, playing a game of some kind ARE all LOSER behaviours as well. You may get lucky and she wont decipher that you are paying her with this entertainment and brand you a poor lover or micro penis equipped man, but it STILL does not move them into a sexual direction of any kind, so don’t waste the time. Besides, tampering with these mystic forces is a one-way ticket to eternity in hell, ha ha ha.

9.6 Speaking romantically or about wonderful states of mind and such may brand you a good boyfriend or husband material, which may eventually lead you to sex with her. It will go WITH her social conditioning rather than busting through it and getting to the natural woman who likes sex. However, she will most times “make you wait” or want to “date” first in this context. “Making the guy wait” is a time-honoured bullshit social conditioning that being romantic or “Don Juan” “Casanova” style will get you into 75% of the time with any given women. This is STILL paying for sex, just in a more effective though more time consuming way than other standard suck up tactics. Do this kind of thing AFTER sex if you want to see her again and pursue a long-term relationship. There is no more sure-fire way to get a woman into a romantic relationship than to have sex with her right away, because unless she has one night stands A LOT she will justify her break in conditioning with “it was love at first sight” or “we just had such a good chemistry I couldn’t make my new boyfriend wait”. By the way get caller id if you are gonna have a lot of one night stands, or avoid the woman knowing where you live or your phone number. The same dynamic I just wrote about will cause women to stalk you and demand relationships, if you aren’t ready for one be prepared to say “get lost” a lot.

Entertainment, gimmicks and flattery can only buy you RAPPORT with women, they do not build attraction or guarantee sex. If after using something like this to get a rapport, you find yourself in bed with a girl, she would’ve been there FASTER if you hadn’t used the pandering, entertaining and ass kissing beforehand. CONSERVE YOUR TIME, creativity, and passion for women who are actually attracted to you.

9.7 DATES: NO DATES from here on out. The simple act of going on a date immediately puts her social conditioning into play HEAVY and the “make him wait” dynamic is introduced.  I have NEVER been on a date with a woman, and I have had plenty of sex. Get the woman isolated with you (alone. just you and her out of public) soon after the initial approach for your “date” aka getting to know each other.  I’ll discuss how to do this later on.

9.8 NO PHONE NUMBERS, from here on out, you can go out and get 10 numbers a day for 30 days, that’s 300 numbers, of those 300 maybe ONE will end up in bed with you after you call. If on all 300 you had stayed there after you approached, conveyed your sexual state, waited for her to go into sexual state, and then isolated her, you would have only approached 50 tops the whole month as you would have been to preoccupied in bed with 10 of those 50, avoiding another 250 approaches.  If she finds you at all attractive she will talk to you right then and there, and most likely if you play the game right go home with you that day or from that bar, or into the sex room at a party.

Of course calling a woman, buying her a gift or going on a date with her inside the context of a relationship is fine, but not before she’s proven herself attracted to you enough for sex to happen.

Section 10:  Sexual state broken down.

Sexual state is THE most important thing you will learn from this guide.  It is THE mind state you will be using to deal with women you want to sleep with.  It is most likely the mind state you’ve had every time you ever sexed a woman in the past, at least as soon as the point came when you KNEW it was gonna happen. There is a certain “walks like a duck acts like a duck, must be a duck” dynamic working for you in the sexual state. If you act like her lover, act like you are in a sexual encounter and assume the behaviours and actions of a great lover, she eventually will start to think you are a waterfowl. Just kidding, of course she starts to go into the same states of mind from other sexual encounters she has had in the past, if she is at all attracted. This is what’s called “rapport congruency”.  You can look it up if you want to read 300 pages of dime store psychology, but suffice to say, if all the actions and states are present your mind kinda starts to assume it’s the same situation, a milder form of “déjà vu”.

Furthermore, when someone perceives something in someone, but isn’t directly told to them verbally by the person, they tend to think its THEY who are the ones imagining it – that it is comes from within them. That’s why I tell you later to not verbalize your sexual intent in any way, as when you don’t, she will more likely to think, “Why am I thinking sexually about this guy….hmmm I must want him or else I wouldn’t see him as such a horny guy.”

The “sexual state” is readily stepped into by imagining how you interacted with your last lover when in the bedroom before sex, or during pillow talk, and had a lustful desire for the woman. These are the things that it should encompass. These specifics are not to be used individually, but as an overall state that you go into when dealing with a woman. Read Bruce Lees Tao of Jeet Kune Do for an understanding of not focusing on specific technique but rather on overall strategy that encompasses several techniques. My method has been compared to this type of “fluid” theory, contrasting other seduction methods that are closer to classical Karate, which focuses on memorized techniques that take longer to master, and are harder to remember under stress.  What follows of more of a troubleshooting guide.

10.1 Sensual eye contact (EC). Proper eye contact with a woman is an important piece of your sexual state. The “bedroom eyes” are something you will need to convey during the encounter, since you want her to develop them as well, as she gets more and more comfortable with you and begins to mirror your actions and “vibe”. “Bedroom eyes” are also much more attractive than darting or fearful eyes.

10.2 Closeness, or for the nit picks “physical proximity” to her is also very important. Since you aren’t gonna be seductive or sensual standing 2 feet away from her, you need to be within 6-8 inches of her – VERY CLOSE. You slowly move into this as you sense her loosening up a bit. Of course good breath is a crucial at this point. Brush you tongue and FLOSS those back molars out so your mouth doesn’t smell like something that passed through the system of a morbidly obese 10-year-old boy. See “conversation” section for why not to say that last sentence in front of a woman, as well.

10.3 Touch her.  Since touch is the first step in getting her comfortable with you as a sexual creature, you want to sneak this in slowly.  A good progression is: hands, arms, lowers back, upper back, face (while whispering something to her) and hair, then thighs (hand placed but relatively stationary), and upper legs. You should NOT look at you hands as you touch her, as this alerts her to a “question” – “is it ok to touch there?” in dynamic.  Also, her eyes will follow your eyes to the touching and it will be unnatural, thus questioned by her or rejected. Touching also shows that “confidence”, and may alert her to your being good with women, a fine lover, and confident lover. It demonstrates, “I am not afraid to touch women, because women like to be touched by me”, to her inner workings.

Touch early on also is a HUGE time saver, if she is so uncomfortable with you touching her right from the start as to physically or verbally stop it, NOTHING you say or do, short of saving her life is gonna get her into a sexual state for you.

10.4 Tone of voice should be that of a sexual tone. You can’t run up yelling like Adolf Hitler at a nazi youth rally speech, or mumbling and stammering like Woody Allen. NOT SEXY. Not “talks like a duck”.  Imagine you are talking to a former or current girlfriend in a bed and about to have sex.  You soften your voice, you deepen your voice, you speak slower and with an inflection of optimism and kindness. Not your regular speaking voice but YOUR sensual sexual voice. They were right when they said “just be yourself” they just never told you what “self” to be.

Simply sliding into the sexual state will usually encompass the above behaviours inside of itself. Overall these are the medium sized chunks of sexual state, the large being “be horny”, and the small likely being to many to ever be fully understood. The small chunks may encompass micro facial expressions, body positioning, or even ESP (extra sensory perception) . Its like how knowing there are vitamins A, C, D in a fruit, and taking those things out and using them in a pill, doesn’t give you all of the undiscovered things that are inside a fruit that may be beneficial. We just KNOW A,C,D are essential for good health. It’s the same here, we know that sections 10.1,2,3 of this guide are the medium chunks of what’s essential, and we know that eating the fruit is essential (natural sexual state). Lets just live naturally rather than trying to condense it all into a pill or formula and ENJOY eating the fruit (being horny) that gives us all we need.

Now, advanced deal here. Not really a part of sexual state itself, but an obstacle to it sometimes and dealing with it.

10.5 State matching. Quickly notice her state before you approach, is she UP, kinda down, or laughing a lot?  STAY in the sexual state, but keep your actions kind of similar to hers so as to not break her state entirely, causing you to be seen as intrusive (breaking rapport). You want to convey the sexual state, but you don’t wanna break her state either. This is another reason lone wolfs are easier to go for, as they usually aren’t in some kind of “group state” of ruckus or laughter ect.  You can approach women in strange states by matching theirs once you get far more advanced, but go more for the calm ones at first.  This takes a butload of practice to get down, but as I said this is a trouble-shooting section and not techniques to obsess on.

As an example of state matching WHILE conveying sexual state:  Imagine your girlfriend just got home from work she’s EXCITED as hell about a promotion she got at work.  Now you’ve been waiting all day to have sex with her, but you wouldn’t just walk up and go sexual on her because it might break her state and cause her to kind of reel back.  Instead, you would put your arms around her and say some sort of “wow that’s great”, in about half the excitement level she has. This will curb her excited state slightly enough for her to begin recognizing your sexual state.

So say she’s really down because her cat just died, you kinda get a little bit down too, but not completely as down as she is. This makes her kinda follow you into the less depressed state, enough so that she can pickup on your sexual state. She of course assumes it’s HER sexual state, since you aren’t saying anything sexual and she just perceives it.  So, “I must be horny cause I’m so sad” or “getting excited about this promotion got me excited about other things as well” is what she thinks.  Of course it works a little less on strangers than a girlfriend, as they don’t yet see you as a sexual outlet (except by virtue of being a man and having a penis).  So it takes them some time to say “why am I horny for this guy”.

Simple huh?  No?  Sorry, this last one takes some field practice to get down.

Section 11:

What to say. What you say isn’t that important – rather, its how you present yourself to her.  Still you need to talk or be labelled an alien so here goes.  Simple advice and techniques, as the sexual state, is FAR more important to convey than what you say to her is.

The opener, as I said can just be simple a “hi”, “hello”, or “you from around here” ect. Introduce yourself at some point with your FULL name, first and last.  People used to do this and it had a touch of class, dignity, pride and authority. Now its like, “I’m Dan, I don’t have a last name I’m just Dan, I’m simple Dan “. Also being on first and last name basis is good, as she won’t feel like a “slut” for having sex with some guy who she can’t delude herself to think she knows.  Get used to introducing yourself this way all the time and within 6 months it’ll be natural so you don’t have to think about it.

Say her first name a few times after meeting her, like before a question – “Becky, how do you find yourself in Los Angeles?”  Many psychologists say that hearing your name from someone builds a connection, as they usually only hear it from friends, family, and people they like. Don’t obsess on these small details, but if you can remember to work it into your convo, great.  So long as its not at the expense of breaking your sexual state, and failing to convey that to her. Might be a buncha pop psychology bullshit anyway. Try to get used to doing it though, as it can’t really hurt anything and may help.

The conversation. You don’t need to worry about what you aren’t saying to get into women’s pants. It’s what you’re saying to keep you -out of them- that you need be concerned about. Try not to swear so much you fucking asshole, its not really sexy.  Don’t talk about puke, shit, piss, ejaculate, death, your horrid job, her horrid job, illness, religion, politics, rape, child molestation, pornography, or SEX (yes that’s right no sex talk, being sexual yet tactful with your words is what women call “subtle”, and as was mentioned, gets them thinking sexually EASIER than saying it outright). Nothing NEGATIVE. You don’t wanna talk about her problems or negative things, so if it comes up change the subject.  Otherwise, she’ll tend to associate negative things with you. It’s the same problem that talking about romance and love ect, causes, except in reverse.  You don’t wanna talk about these things that she associates as GOOD with you, because it will prod her to put you into a dating “make him wait” “start a relationship” frame of reference.  The same goes for negative topics.  You want the topics as neutral. People underestimate the power of just getting to know each other as a comfort builder between folks, so they complicate it with LOADS of “say this, say that” armchair psychology.

Just get to know each other as you convey your sexual state, and watch for hers to appear. “Where are you from?”, ” what do ya like bout the area”, “what’s your favourite TV show?”, “why do you like it?”, “what do you like to do for fun”, “ok well IDEALY what would you LIKE to do for fun?” (they never DO what they like for fun, but like to talk about it).  Keep it light -> “getting to know each other before we fuck” kinda dynamic. More important to stay in sexual state than to try to “say the right thing” or “get her to think this about me by saying this” ect. Have some fucking curiosity about people you are gonna do the wamba mamba with would ya!!!!!!!! Her imagining you doing your hobbies, watching the same TV show, going out to the same drive in ect, gets her to imagine you as a normal person, not some guy with a van, ball gag, camera equipment, and a pistol outside waiting to lure her into the lead role of a “snuff” film.

The power of “me too-ing”.  Saying, “oh my god that’s so true”, or “me too I love that” ect even when it’s a lie, makes you seem more “meant to be” or “compatible”.  This is the best verbal technique I’ve come across yet. Opposites attract? BULL, people hook up with people who are in the same kind of place mentally, or at least who are somewhat agreeable with their little “model of the world”.

Let her get to know you. If she’s at all attracted the conversation will get 2 sided within a minute or so.

BIGGEST OF ALL, do not leave, eject, walk off ect just because there is a lull in conversation. She may like you ALOT but she’s nervous and can’t think of much to say. You just haven’t verbally connected yet or found out anything about each other. Do you know how many people have lost the love of their life because they didn’t give it 5 more seconds???? 910,876,531 that’s how many! No I don’t fucking know, but GET REJECTED, don’t just walk off. “make the ho say no”

Not a lot of conversation material here huh? Well most guys who are getting bikini models and strippers, as well as all other women into bed, have NO scripts, NO hypnosis phooey, and NO lines. They are just acceptably attractive enough, even slightly overweight, maybe a little short, maybe a kinda odd looking, BUT GO FOR IT! They don’t hide their sexuality and they persist where other men tuck tail and run.

I commonly get snubbed, the cold shoulder ect or overall rejected with the women I have sex with right away, but I just persist and eventually things take a turn. You love to breathe right? Well I don’t care how bad a fart is lingering around you are eventually gonna say “shit I love to breath I think its worth it to smell the fart”. Air = sex, bad fart smell = your love handles, bad teeth, short stature or balding head in this metaphor. Cyanide gas  = morbid obesity, stinky armpits, deformities and such. They’d rather hold their breath forever = rather go without sex than have it with him.

Section 12:

Watching for her sexual state. As you maintain your sexual state and convey it to her (as you’re get to know each other), the MAIN key is watching for her to finally move into sexual state herself. THIS is when the iron is hot, and you must strike while that iron is hot. This is when you isolate her (as in lone wolf example, and in mildly unattractive woman getting guy alone example).

The keys to recognizing her sexual state coming to be are again something difficult to explain but EASY to recognize. Good explanations are: she lowers eyes and smiles coyly at you, starts to look at your crotch or touch you back sensually, gets flushed and seemingly embarrassed (soon to be bareassed), and starts to stare “hornily” at you and play with something in her hands slowly. These types of things are strong indicators.  As you deal more and more with women, you’ll get to know a sexual state in a woman more readily.

Its kinda like you both are in sexual state, you know it, she knows it, she knows you know it, and you know she knows it, so its time to isolate and make bacon (had to add a tasteless reference in there, ask me about “hot buttered corn” some time while not in mixed company).

Section 13:

ISOLATE. You cannot have sex with girls in public or in front of people with any consistency. If that’s your thing, try it with chicks you are already in a relationship with. You have to get her alone with you.  ANY opportunity to isolate BEFORE going into sexual state should be taken as well of course.

A semi-isolation is a good tactic at bars during the seduction stage. She will undoubtedly have friends with her who will up her social conditioning, AND try to ruin sex for the 2 of you out of jealousy or concern for her safety.  This tends to happen BEFORE you’ve gotten her amped up sexually enough to snub them and come with you. At a bar, when you see a group and want one of them, WAIT for her to leave the herd, wait for her to be coming out of the bathroom (not IN as she may have to piss bad), wait for her to go to the bar to get a drink, wait for her to be ALONE to approach, and then try to keep her from her friends.  Take her to the dance floor, ask her to another part of the club to shoot pool or talk (“its quieter over there”). In public this isn’t so easy, they will think you are weird if they catch you watching them. So when in public, if you’ve just GOTTA try for a girl in a group, get a phone number and chalk it up as a loss.  Or, if you’ve got balls of steel, sit down and try it out.  Then, watch in horror as the friends ruin it. In public, don’t try to entertain these groups to “get in”; it’s a waste of time that could be spent on a lone wolf.

A full isolation (your house, her house, your back seat, a broom closet, a sex room at a party ect) is for after you see her go into a sexual state. What you say isn’t important, “lets save some money and go back to MY place and have some drinks” (at a bar), “I’m having a barbecue up at my place later you wanna come up and listen to some music for a while” (when in public), or “you should come over to my place and check out my weight equipment” (at the gym). Once they are in sexual state they are ITCHING for ANY opportunity, so you don’t need some smooth line.  “Lets go in here” to a sales clerk as I opened the door to a storage room, worked once.

Of course if a girl NEVER goes into sexual state for a long period of time, you just try to isolate her anyway and “make the ho say no”. NEVER eject. Always either get either a lay, or a rejection.  Only TWO options.  Don’t bail out by getting a number or something. The ONLY time you get a number is if she is totally strapped for time and making excuses of that nature, and in that case call her once and don’t think about her again. Basically phone numbers are for when you really don’t even care if you sex her or not, or you don’t care to expend the energy involved in the particular situation or dynamic.

Section 14: (hey I’m superstitious)

The close. Once isolated, the words “why don’t you come sit with me”? or “why don’t you come lay down here?” are CHAMPION.  Of course in a broom closet you just press up against the wall and start kissing. At home after you get her laying with you or sitting on your lap ect, you start to touch her even more at this point, stroking her hair saying it smells nice (HER HAIR YOU PERVS), you then get a good eye contact going and go in for a kiss, give her a soft light kiss with no tongue at first, keep this going until things progress to French kissing, give a good 30 minutes of foreplay to get her REALLY turned on so that she doesn’t give last minute resistance.  Clothes don’t come off for 15-20 minutes, panties don’t come off for 25-30 minutes. Then you are on your own, I’m not godamn Dr. Ruth.

14.1 the last minute problem with sex. This happens sometimes, she’ll say “I don’t know you enough” ect. When this happens don’t get mad or upset ect. Just say, “I understand” or “ok, this is nice though huh?” then go back to necking and making out. Eventually go back in for the sex, if happens again say “I understand” and go back in for more kissing and making out, and repeat until it goes through. Hell even if she never gets ready, what have you got better to do than make out with some hot little number? You’ve got no real “make the ho say no” style of getting a close or getting a rejection to work with at this point, as she already has said no but MAY change her mind. DO NOT struggle or tug or bear weight on her at this stage, as that is considered rape. Use persistence not force, and you’ll be ok.

Section 15:

Relations with women. This isn’t integral to the system just some advice I’d like to dispense, which you may find useful in dealing with women. I’m no relationship expert but these have been ideal ways of looking at things in my experience.

15.1 Relationships are really based on attraction. If one partner knows they can do better they will usually treat the other party poorly or not reciprocate the attention. If you are a “5? and want a long lasting relationship that you feel some love in, find another “5? with a compatible personality.  Of course, you’ll know you can do better (with these skills), but you’ll also know they can’t.

Less jealousy, insecurity, and overall hidden desire to get someone better. You get with a 3 and you are a 5, and you won’t feel much of anything for them in the way of passion and desire, so you’ll make them kinda miserable and insecure. You get with a 10 and you’ll know you can get another one (with these skills) but your attraction will cause you a rampant level of lust and desire that just isn’t reciprocated.  That will just make you feel like shit all the time. Kinda the “only people I fall in love with don’t love me back” syndrome, so common these days.

15.2 In ANY relationship a good method to avoid pain, mess, and eventual heartbreak is to ALWAYS look at how you are being treated and how the relationship makes you feel. NOT at what you feel for them. To do this gauges the base level of passion and attraction she has to you. At the FIRST discomfort or pain caused by the woman in your life, LEAVE. Make her crawl back and apologize. Following this method will set boundaries that will last. You leave and won’t take her calls, and she has to crawl back to you crying the first time she yells at you, holds out sex or hurts you in some way, and there probably wont be a second serving of that dish. It’s hard to do, but it’s important to your well-being. Jaded? Flighty? No. I’d say smart, as it doesn’t drag out something that’s gonna end anyway, leaving you hurt worse than if it had ended sooner. ” It is far better to resist at the beginning than at the end” – somebody clever.

15.3 If a relationship goes bad, or hurts at all, and is dragging out as “friendship” or such, CUT IT CLEAN and you’ll get over it sooner.  If you don’t it may drag on for a long time, with you getting degraded and rejected. These kinds of relationships drain you in all other areas of life, try  to avoid them at all costs, but if you find yourself in one, RUN! “Work it out” with someone new, the next one with a clean slate who hasn’t pushed so far into your boundaries yet.

“When women love us, they forgive us everything, even our crimes; when they do not love us, they give us credit for nothing, not even our virtues” – Balzac.

15.4 When you are in the grasp of love and obsession over a girl always ask, “If I could have sex and a relationship (if I wanted one) with the next 10 beautiful women I see, would I forget that I ever knew the one I am with right now?” If yes, you would, you don’t love her.  You are sex-addicted and probably putting up with way too much shit. Its time to have a showdown with her, unless she’s just a fancy of yours or a stranger of course, in that event its time to try to sex her. Also ask yourself when in an LTR or when being just friends, “if I could come and have sex with this woman as frequent as I want, but would lose ALL other activities and conversations with her, would I trade that?”  If you would only want her for sex, don’t put up with her shit if she’s giving you any.  Don’t waste time with someone you really don’t enjoy, when you could be out finding something more enjoyable and compatible, ALONG with sex in that time spent.

15.5 Women sooth issues.  A break up from a long term relationship can be murder on your limbic system, self esteem and well being. The main reason for this is that you have mental issues you’ve learned to deal with. A woman comes along who not only makes your dealing with those issues easier, but quells them altogether. She makes you feel desirable to women, makes you feel like a good lover, makes you feel like someone worthy of love. She leaves, BOOM, you aren’t only missing her ability to quell these issues, but NOW have to learn to deal with them and get used to them all over again. Realize this. Use a pain filled break up as an opportunity to recognize and GET RID of these self esteem problems. Don’t be a co- dependant, always defining who is important to you by what gaps of yours they can fill (mind out of the gutter people), instead be a complete person (self help jargon I know). Seek the permanent company of people you WANT around you, not NEED around you. Eventually you don’t hurt anymore this way.

15.6 Grief as a rebound. OFTEN when you don’t want a relationship to end and it does anyway you will hold onto the pain as a means of not accepting it as REALLY over. You fantasize about the other person crawling back begging to be with you, because they’ve seen the error of their ways. Not a good idea, this only prolongs things, focus on YOU and what she did to “complete you” that needs to be complete on its own by your own rethinking of self esteem, goals and ability to succeed. Remember YOU are physically the same now as before you were ever hurting over this woman, only now you aren’t used to being you anymore, you are used to being you AND her together. The electricity in that brain of yours lies, true love is new love, not someone sticking around forever in order to fill each others needs.     Romance writers of old are responsible for all the pain you’ve ever felt over lost love, remember monogamy and commitment, even the word “love” are a 100th as old as  man, while sex and short pair bonds are timeless. No one ever killed themselves over losing a sex partner until someone decided co-dependant relationships were some mystical bond that must hurt when severed then told and wrote about it.

Just my thoughts on how to stay happy when it comes to love and relationships, tested, used, and approved by me, myself and I. Once I’m complete emotionally, ill find an emotionally complete woman to attempt a permanent bond with. Til then as temporary as possible hot sexual unions, and a little pain in completing myself through future failed relationships and finally the search for the emotionally complete, “semi attractive” woman looks good to me.

Section 16:

WILLPOWER is all you need in life. As a rule try not to fantasize period, fantasy is what tells your super ego that it has what it wants, because you “id” knows it isn’t possible. To purposefully  fantasize, visualize and imagine things at length is to also tell the “id” that something isn’t possible. You must have some slight visualization of anything to create initial desire, but to actively fantasize will only cause you to see something as impossible in the form of diminished willpower. ACTIONS are SPARKED by thoughts, not carried out by them. Thoughts paralyse action after a while. My one life lesson, WILL to do what YOU want in life is all you need.

RECAP:

This isn’t brain surgery. That’s why it can be understood and adapted to various situations.

Look YOUR best, see lone wolf, realize she loves sex, get sexually turned on for her, approach her in sexual state, convey sexual state to her, get to know her while in sexual state, watch for her sexual state, isolate.

Or even easier to remember, 1. be sexual, 2. watch for her sexual state, 3. isolate. Those 3 things are all I take out into the field at a conscious level. The rest has to be filled in to each specific encounter and takes a little practice and time to get ingrained into you. I have seen it work the first run out, by a fucked up looking guy. “Paralysis by analysis” can be deadly to the willpower, so get on the ball, stop reading and take those 3 phrases, inside your head, out in the field with you and get laid.

And remember “make the ho say no”.

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The Supposed “problems” with the Gunwitch Method:

there’s largely TWO beefs with the Gunwitch Method.
1) That it is UNORIGINAL.
2) That is condemns and disregards plenty of of our most valued seduction
techniques. It goies against the grain of pickup artists.

Both of these beefs, IMO, have merit on the surface.

However, given a PURE understanding (acquired through actually FIELD TESTING
IT) of the method, it’s my view that they’re unsubstantiated.

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Addressing the beefs:

Unoriginality. Of work, one must wonder, “how is this GUNWITCH’s method?
People have been doing this for YEARS!”

Beef #1)

So what’s original, then, about Gunwitch’s stuff?

Naturally, this is a legitimate concern. People HAVE been going in to sexual
states ever since even before Commodore 64s came out! Yep! It’s true!

I’ve seen Mystery Method at its PUREST. I’ve LIVED with Mystery for THREE
days, at my workshop. I can inform you, MM is wonderful. it is THE shite.

Well in my view, Gunwitch’s stuff is a MUCH NEEDED opposing point, in the
spectrum of the debates. That is its most important contribution.

Trust me. If a chick is ALREADY in a sexual state, going in to routines will
BREAK it. (a case of this was recently seen in twentysix’s recent unfortunate
fuckup document, IMO)

BUT, OTOH, there is a TIME and PLACE for EVERYTHING. and MM and SS are not the
best methods in certain scenarios. In plenty of cases, they are OVERKILL. and, I
DO agree with Gunwitch, in his assessment that in certain scenarios they can
cause the HB to HOLD OUT on sex», because they likes you a lot and wants to
establish value for herself by holding out. (meanwhile they fucks her daddy’s
pool man).

An example of this, from my own experience, was the MILF that everyone was so
upset that I didn’t screw, but who I succesfully PU’ed.

In her case, I used PURE Gunwitch Method, and TRUST ME, it W-O-R-K-E-D. Had I
started busting out routines, it would have completely FUCKED IT UP.

there’s some cases where ANYTHING OTHER than Gunwitch method will destroy the
lay.

and that sarge, for individuals who don’t keep in mind, necessary me only to go in to a
sexual state (to the point where I was one time visibly hard to her in fact!), and chat
about my major, where I lived, where I was one time from, and what my name was (the last
thing they asked, before they agreed to bring me to her house within 10 minutes
of having met me).

Gunwitch shows us a way to seduce WITHOUT having any game prepared.

Amongst plenty of things, it shows us:
-a GREAT method of state control (going in to a sexual state STOPS nervousness
IN ITS TRACKS and makes you much more liquid and assured in your sarges)
-a way to generate wonderful CHEMISTRY with   any chick outside of a
group
-a way to seal the deal within MINUTES of an approach, in cases where a lone
girl is approachable (IOW, SKIP the sarge!)

While I don’t agree with using it in ALL cases, I DO agree that it is USEFUL in
various situations.

IMO, while its not as original as say Group Theory, given the CONTEXT of how
far we’ve gone on ASF to take game to another level, it is a  original and
MUCH NEEDED contribution to our game.

It’s a vital peice of my toolbox, and something that I whip out on occassions
with great success.

Beef #2)

Gunwitch  tears down alot of our most valued PU tactics.

Commander Zap, for example, has PU’ed plenty of chicks using palm-reading to open it
up. Spirit has used NLP.

So how can Gunwitch be right, then?

Well the thing is, that plenty of of our tricks are designed for use on GROUPS – to
attain perceived alpha-status through social proof, which comes from
entertaining the group using the gimmicks.

Other times, the gimmicks/patterns are used to generate interest in girls who
Gunwitch method could not work for. You TRY using the sexual state method, but
if it doesn’t work, these things BUY YOU MORE TIME to see in the event you can get her to
go sexual later on.

Gunwitch’s point that gimmicks/patterns is supplication is, IMO, misunderstood.

think about it. You’ll do the Gunwitch thing UNCONCSIOUSLY if the sarge goes
well. Gunwitch is merely advocating trying to skip over that stuff. If it
doesn’t work, Gunwitch has told me on plenty of occassions that he’ll TRY SOMETHING
ELSE, such as NLP.

But YET, they ARE, STRICTLY SPEAKING, still supplication. they  DOESN’T
KNOW IT. Which as far as we’re concerned, IS FINE, as long as they get laid!

By my reading of it, they does not view gimmicks/patterns as supplication in the
TRADITIONAL sense (ie: paying for shite, or ANYTHING that BREAKS HER STATE by
causing her to perceive you as trying to manipulate her in to sex»). Our
gimmicks/routines are not supplication in that sense.

Ask Gunwitch “would you do gimmicks x,y,z to lay a WWF Nitro Girl (I assume
that’s his taste!)” and I’m guessing he’d say ‘yes’. His point, however, is
merely that they CAN be skipped, and given the chance to skip them, you
ought to skip them.

So, for one reading the Gunwitch text, and thinking “wtf is this?! I’ve
invested x-hours in to learning gimmicks/patterning… this is BULLSHIT!” YOU
need NOT FEEL THIS WAY. basically, you need to recognize that there is a TIME and
PLACE for all of these things, and sometimes they are not necessary.

Gunwitch Method: THE technique, and the way it gets you LAID

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The Gunwitch method cannot help you lay chicks in a group. It cannot help you
lay chicks in a rush, hurrying down the street. It cannot help you lay certain
chicks that  won’t screw YOU.

MM and SS CAN.

BOOM! You’re in to a convo, and the PU game BEGINS.

A chick walks down the street, you yell, “OMG, I need an opinion on something..
my friend, they was invited onto Ricki Lake! The secret admirer show! He’s
terrified its a gay man from his work, but it could be the girl they likes!”

A chick is along with her friends, you begin entertaining them, and negging HER. She
gets insecure, but her friends love you. You ask the friends if its OK to talk
to the target alone since you’ve alienated her, and they GLADLY send you two on
your way!

Can Gunwitch Method get you that? NO.

and SS. You’ve got the chick isolated, and they  ISN’T going in to a sexual
state.

Next thing, you begin describing “this and that feeling” with all these SPs,
binder commands, and time manipulations..

Can Gunwitch Method get you that? NO.

BOOM, they feels the connection, and you’re on your way.

So what nice is it then?!

Well Gunwitch Method is EXCELLENT for PU’ing lone chicks in plenty of MANY MANY
situations.

BOOM. You’re on your way to a SAME DAY F_CLOSE!

You walk up on a chick in the grocery store. Go in to a sexual state.. you talk
some fluff, when all of a sudden, they starts to arch her back, soften her tone,
and check you out..

Can MM/SS get you that?!?!?! NOOOOO!

So it DOES have applications.

(ASIDE: I also need to clear up a misconception, having met Mystery IRL.
Mystery is excellent at EVERYTHING, though he’s known primarily for group
theory. His instincts are TUNED, and I guarantee if they senses that they doesn’t
need routines, they doesn’t use them, and lays the chick ASAP)

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Both Eddy and myself have had increased success since the release of the text.

My experience with Gunwitch Method:

Through persistance ‘make the ho say no’ he’s laid plenty of HBs here at Queen’s
University with me.

Eddy, who usually dislikes all reading and ANYTHING that involves him either
not jerking off or having sex» 5 times / day, naturally LOVES the method, given
that it doesn’t need any further reading.

I’ve also used it myself, and in the FIRST WEEK in TESTING, managed to get a
girl to agree to come back to my automobile (where I ditched her cause I had to go,
and did it  to impress my friend), and isolated another girl at a grocery
store.

It’s wonderful what these chicks will agree to, one time their “time to FUCK”
instinct has been triggered.

I’ve also had other experiences, where I was one time successful, and in rhetrospect,
KNEW that had I not used it, they would have been REMOVED from the sexual state,
and NOT f_closed.

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When to use it:

one time you’ve tried it, you create a pleasant sense for when its time to use it, and
when its not.

in the event you try to “go sexual” and they won’t reciprocate, its TIME TO TRY SOME OTHER
TACTIC.

BUT, if they goes sexual, LAY OFF THE TACTICS and stick to Gunwitch style.

The key part is ISOLATION. You’ll be AMAZED at what chicks who don’t even
like you that much will do to  themselves, in the event that they think they’re friends
will never know about it.

Anyway,  try to picture a time where the chick is completely aroused at the
finish OF YOUR NORMAL GIMMICK BASED GAME. OK, now picture what would happen at
that point in the event you started talking about Elvis’ hair. Fucked up, right?

BUT, sometimes it DOES, and those times I’m  happy that I was one time able to skip
over all that, and GO FOR THE JUGGULAR.

Well using Gunwitch method, you can fundamentally get to that point by SKIPPING all
the other shite. It doesn’t always work. Hell, I PU some DAMNED hot chicks
with MAJOR bitch shields, and it OFTEN doesn’t work. For me, its more often
than not, in fact. But i have respectable game, and i have MANEUVREBILITY, so I can
basically go game and recuperate one time I do know its not going to work.

the way it works to get you laid on a day-to-day basis:

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You cannot walk in to a club, pick a target (say the hottest chick), and FOR
SURE nail her using Gunwitch method, IMO.

To speak metaphorically, the difference between Gunwitch method and MM or SS,
is that it is a DRAG NET, while MM/SS is a FISHING LINE.

With MM, you can CONSISTENTLY work the crowd, play the target’s insecurities,
play her ‘social proof = alpha’ perceeptions, and lay her.

you can lay a SPECIFIC TARGET.

Basically, in the event you ‘go sexual’ or ‘go gunwitch’ on every respectable lone chick you
meet, you WILL GET LAID REGULARLY BY beautiful females.

Gunwitch method, OTOH, can lay you plenty of targets, but won’t necessarily get you
a specific target.

Point is, IMO, with MM/SS/allASF, you can hone in on a target and get her
consistently. But with Gunwitch Method, you can lay plenty of chicks regularly,
though perhaps not your specific wanted chick.

Even our more ugly bros, who EXPLOIT the principle of ISOLATION to get her to
fuck.

I’m basically making the claim that MM/SS are more versatile for laying chicks
that aren’t initially taking the bait, while Gunwitch method is better for just
throwing out a drag net of conveying sexuality, and catching plenty of chicks.

That is NOT to say that you cannot lay a specific chick. Often, you can. VERY
OFTEN.

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Does this make sense? I can elaborate further if necessary.

-Gunwitch method IS a valuable contribution.

CONCLUSION:

-You ought to NOT write off all other ASF stuff, but rather use it
SYNERGISTICALLY. This stuff is ALL great.

-It is an essential part of a PUAs toolbox, and ought to ALWAYS be pulled
out in certain scenarios.

-Gunwitch bro, thanks for all the help. Keep ‘making the ho say no’ dude!
Don’t be pissed if people talk shite, alot of them probably have no actual game.

-Taking 2 weeks to  PRACTISE using it (ie: practise conveying a sexual
state WITHOUT the crutch of other ASF stuff)  to SEE THE RESULTS, is an
EXCELLENT and  EDIFYING experience for a PUA. Even if it lowers results
for those 2 weeks, it will UP GAME SIGNIFIGANTLY in the future, because your
ENDGAME will be TIGHT AS HELL. In fact, my PU skills are mediocre at BEST (if
not SUB AVERAGE.. and the same goes for Eddy), but because our ENDGAME is
brilliantly TIGHT, they can still lay way more chicks than alot of you can, simply
because ANY CHICK THAT WILL SPEND TIME FOR ME IS A SITTING DUCK. That’s why
I’ve posted more PU reports than final LRs. Because for me, if I can PU, I can
f_close. Guaranteed, using Gunwitch method. So the PU is the harder part, and
more fascinating part for me.

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Well, there’s 45 minutes giving my 2 cents on Gunwitch’s method. I hope its
helpful.

Hopefully people will be more open inclined to it. keep in mind, that ALL of this
stuff is useful, and not to take ANYTHING dogmatically.  try it all, and
build your own toolbox.

I use MM, I use SS, I use C&F, I use NYC style, I use Toecutter’s stuff, and I
use Gunwitch method. It’s all helped my interactions with females substantially,
and all been worth the time investment in trying them individually.

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I think this is the last bastion of things i don not understand about how I get the high ratio of approach to screw closes that spawned the whole gunwitch scheme.

The factor I spotted i wasnt providing is how rapport works for me. understand rapport is essential but is not a seduction tool. Sounds confusing in the event you take the ideals of this board & seduction as a reality I do know. But thats another large key to “get”, is that what you say has small to no effect on getting in a womans pants unless its negative, SO in the event you say negative things you ruin it, in the event you say the right things, certain youve gotten laid, but youve wasted time saying them as he was already to screw you anyhow as long as you persist passed her ideals, hence heads you win tales you lose when it comes to what you say. in the event you cant grasp that or dont need to think that truth, i must speculate that youll most likely always have some amount of trouble with ladies, as until there’s a thing a deformed or chubby man can say to get laid, nothing said really helps for me anyhow, & im not green, I do know a thing or 50 about PU.

This key is that TRYING for rapport always seems to fail. Acting indifferent SUCKS even worse, so whats a man to do? simple, assume rapport. Cocky humorous frames attempt to do a small bit of this with the busting chops techniques, yet appear to work half assed because the blokes go overboard with it. SO in the event you use cocky humorous & it isnt working, cease, try this in lieu. OR a man can “just assume rapport” which sounds good in theory but isnt descriptive  to actually do.

Notice i say for ME, as thats all the GWM ever has been is my explanation of what i do.

I do know by the title of this post some expected a script or pattern ect, but thats  not flexible , unless you  wanna be heard or liked not fucked. You must understand the dynamics of rapport.

This isnt a long lesson to learn & needs no field work really, lets start.

Im willing to bet there’s THREE main things different. 1. you never ask the people you know questions about themselves, 2. you never volunteer information about yourself to the people you know either, 3. you use a continuous pacing of reality with situational comments of situations at hand  than a probing of each other for information.

Ask yourself, how can i interact with the people i have rapport with? Whats different from how i interact with them & how i interact with the ladies I attempt to PU. EVEN perhaps ask yourself why its simpler to lay a chick youve  met yet is in a social circle or at work ect where a certain rapport is assumed, than a stranger?

Ok heres the thing, getting to this with a chick  than the probing.

Right away with a unusual woman on the street at a club ect ect, whatever target, you will must do some amount of probing like this right away else receive a “do I do know you?”, k thats a good thing that dynamic right? As it shows that people say that because they can recognize when they know anyone or not , by words said at the approach.

The first stage of rapport from fluff is of coursework for me perhaps a comment ont he room or place or weather something bland, then ill ask her name, give her mine if he asks, first & last then ask her last name ect. perhaps ask if shes from the area ect.

K heres what i havent been telling you all, that i wait for a kind of rapport SOI from her, the first time he starts asking me questions back (as i said in my scheme “itll get 2 sided quick if shes attracted”)i pounce. At this point i assume that he’s made a statement by asking me for information as well that he indeed does intend to get rapport with me as well. THEN from then on its all “being myself”, always must be relaxed (only from field work comes that mind you), yet i now VERBALLY relax as well at the first indicator that he intends a rapport as well. think how plenty of times a woman has asked you a question back for the first time in an interaction? How plenty of times did you answer it, THEN break the next dead spot in convo with another question? Total rapport regression that is, why not take it to the next level when it presents itself?

So what do you do two times you get the rapport SOI that takes it to another level?

Simple, start alot more pacing of the environment, start to make statements, not ask questions about her or volunteer information about yourself. Notice to her the way people look around at each other to make certain they’re “dancing right” every few seconds at a club, perhaps about how plenty of people appear to not be able to control themselves when it comes to food, something valid & in the environment.

think Verbal Rapport Assumption, not to be an arrogant fucker but if “VRA” doesnt become a buzz phrase around here then no ones doing PU right or doesnt see they’re doing this in my book. think verbal rapport assumption from the first SOI of mutual rapport, THEN think total relaxation & shutdown ANY thoughts of what to say to her,  focus on projecting sexual state to her & looking for it back from her for a then persistent isolation attempt.

Something you & a mate, ex girlfriend or family would speak about, this is why TV & films & such is a great place to lead the convo, it   forces things in to a conversational tone of rapport  than 1. asking questions about her, 2. volunteering of information about you, 3. paces A reality, A reality not the current one but one you both know of & can speak about.

Ok not a new dynamic or scheme I do know, but then neither was my first stuff, but it appeared to help a ton of guys out, so figured id throw this in having eventually figured it out as something i do.

This is all  confusing for you? You dont have anyone you have a rapport with? Ok, go about a traditional approach with simple asking questions or pace of reality opener speaking about her hometown ect, then look for the first SOI of rapport from her (her asking about you), then soon as you get that, quickly switch the topic to TV or movies & get to speaking about that, cease with the volunteering of information & prying for it from her.

& keep in mind “make the ho say no”.


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