Flirting is, at its most basic, a way to meet girls and see (within a short period of time) if they’re compatible. In alot of circumstances, such as at a dance or a party, flirting is the only way to open the door to a romantic relationship with someone you don’t know & might not otherwise ever see again. Because of all of this, flirting is a important skill, & it’s one that makes many guys nervous. There is an art of flirting, though, & it’s an art that can be learned. Here are some pointers for you.
However you flirt, keep in mind that flirting should indicate your interest in getting to know someone — in a polite, respectful and tactful way. Using cheesy pickup lines, being too aggressive, touching inappropriately or being in any way vulgar or rude will get you not only turned down but also probably slapped. Flirting is designed to make the person you’re flirting with feel attractive and special, not intimidated.
When you flirt with females does it lack sexual tension, and border on a job interview?When you flirt with girls do you wish you had the flirting power that a quantity of the actor’s have in movies?When you flirt with girls do you wonder why some guys have girls hanging off them, & some struggle?When you flirt with girls are you TOO cocky in conversations, & you can feel it working until you hit a nerve & realize… not again?Sexual tension is fundamentally when there exists polarity, magnetism or, as they like to call it, “attraction”. The largest misnomer that exists is that one can create attraction – this is FALSE. Do i have your attention now? Attraction is based on polarity & magnetism, NOT on the outside elements you are probably obsessed with right now…”what do I say”, “what should I wear”, “how should I stand”…Flirting is basically the hardest idea for men to get who struggle with females, dating & relationships. Most men lack the ability to understand it, & then how to work with it. The primary way to influence sexual tension is to flirt with females.It takes some balls to flirt with females, as it indicates automatically a sexual interest, which is uncomfortable for lots of men. What you are looking for are opportunities to insult her, point out her flaws (not physical, of course), treat her like a small brother that you don’t take seriously. Do all of this though with a smirk – you don’t require to be taken at face value here. By pushing/pulling all in one they mix brain signals, & engage her emotionally. This is the clearest way to communicate that you are comfortable around her, & that he can be comfortable around you too.In short, flirting is where they push away with our words, & pull towards with our energy. So, a classic scenario is where the man treats the woman as being slightly beneath him in coolness (I emphasize slightly, as too much comes across as cocky – which signals insecurity). You might call her a “dork”, while smiling at her – the word “dork” is an insult, but the smirk is an invitation.The best flirting comments are created in the moment, based on what he is revealing to you about herself at that moment. Flirting is fundamentally the art of insulting, but doing so with a smirk.When you flirt with females does it lack sexual tension, & border on a job interview?
When you flirt with females do you wish you had the flirting power that a quantity of the actor’s have in movies?
When you flirt with females do you wonder why some guys have girls hanging off them, & some struggle?
When you flirt with females are you TOO cocky in conversations, & you can feel it working until you hit a nerve & realize… not again?
Sexual tension is fundamentally when there exists polarity, magnetism or, as they like to call it, “attraction”. The largest misnomer that exists is that one can create attraction – this is FALSE. Do i have your attention now? Attraction is based on polarity & magnetism, NOT on the outside elements you are probably obsessed with right now…”what do I say”, “what should I wear”, “how should I stand”…
Flirting is basically the hardest idea for men to get who struggle with females, dating & relationships. Most men lack the ability to understand it, & then how to work with it. The primary way to influence sexual tension is to flirt with females.
It takes some balls to flirt with females, as it indicates automatically a sexual interest, which is uncomfortable for lots of men. What you are looking for are opportunities to insult her, point out her flaws (not physical, of course), treat her like a small brother that you don’t take seriously. Do all of this though with a smirk – you don’t require to be taken at face value here. By pushing/pulling all in one they mix brain signals, & engage her emotionally. This is the clearest way to communicate that you are comfortable around her, & that he can be comfortable around you too.
In short, flirting is where they push away with our words, & pull towards with our energy. So, a classic scenario is where the man treats the woman as being slightly beneath him in coolness (I emphasize slightly, as too much comes across as cocky – which signals insecurity). You might call her a “dork”, while smiling at her – the word “dork” is an insult, but the smirk is an invitation.
The best flirting comments are created in the moment, based on what he is revealing to you about herself at that moment. Flirting is fundamentally the art of insulting, but doing so with a smirk.
I mean, surely there’s no way in that you can bring up a sex related issue without looking like you’re the one that has the dirty idea right?
Well, think about what a comedian does.
What do they do that allows them to talk about ANY topic without feeling weird? What do they say that enables them to smoothly transition from one theme to another and make it look like a seamless piece of single string?
Out of ideas?
Well, does this sound familiar?
“I was talking to my best friend the other day…”
Or
“Did you know that my friend XYZ did…”
Yup, that’s right. They make up hypothetical situations whereby they insert a name of a friend or the character of one of their best friends in order to use as an excuse for them to further open up conversation in relation to a specific issue.
Why do they do this?
Well because it makes them seem as if it’s not really their idea to start the topic, it gives them the plausible deniability that they are just the innocent listener who is genuinely interested in the topic that was started by someone out and who is in search of an answer.
It has absolutely 100% nothing to do with their own personal interests.
That’s what you can do also!
So the next time you want to start talking about something sexual or understand where the woman is coming from in relation to a topic that conventional conversations would consider taboo, might I suggest you bring this line into play:
“Hey, I was just chatting to my best friend XYZ the other day, he was talking to his girlfriend about [insert sexual topic] and this was her response [insert your desired response]. What do you think about the situation”.
That is all. If you do this right, your bed will look like this tomorrow morning:
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