Eva Weisberg. Sexy, intelligent, Eastern European author and dating coach. She’s the rare kind of girl that can observe and elegantly describe her own, and other womens’ behaviours and reactions when it comes to how guys act around them. And she’s just published her first book. Check out her book here: ‘Get a Girl: By a Girl’
=======================================If you haven’t read ‘Most Girls Are Insecure: Part One’, then check that out before reading below.So, how can all this help you with women?
Let me go through a few ways.
* Use sincere compliments to help boost her self-esteem. Tell your girl every day how pretty she is, about how you love her looks, whether or not she’s wearing make-up, and about how you love her shape and her figure, no matter what it is. Try telling her she’s beautiful when you’re having breakfast in the morning and before she’s put on any make-up, and then try telling her how good she looks when she’s been through the bathroom, and sorted her hair and make-up. And I always emphasise to men that girls love *details*. Don’t just say “You look nice, honey” while looking in the opposite direction! Try and say something personal and tailored, something like “You’re looking so fresh and young without your make-up”, or “I love your eyes with that eyeliner, it really emphasises their beauty”. If there’s something she’s most proud of (and there *is*, you just have to listen to her to find out what), compliment her on it! Just always make sure your compliment is genuine. If she’s touched by something you’ve said she’s likely to ask you to repeat it at some point — and you’re just as likely to have forgotten exactly what you said. If your compliment was genuine that’s no problem! You simply say something that conveys the
same emotion that you wanted to before.
* Don’t talk about other pretty girls, and what exactly you like about them! This should be simple common-sense, but so many guys don’t seem to *think*. The same goes for your exes — they are your past for a reason, so remember that, because not many girls will like hearing about them. It would make any girl insecure to think that you still think about your exes. If she’s already insecure it will make her feel even worse! While you’re trying to help her build up her self-esteem you’re better making it all about *her*. Make her feel special and
important. Don’t blindly trigger further insecurities.
* Related to that… listen and learn! If something you’ve said or done triggered her insecurity then no matter how justified you think you were, learn from it and avoid doing it again. You should be able to talk about almost anything — you just have to learn how to do it so that it doesn’t make her feel worse. If there’s no way, don’t talk about it. You’ve got everything under the sun to discuss. Exactly why are you wanting to talk about the mole on her face?
* And related to *that*… don’t joke about her being fat, not fitting that ass into those jeans, or anything like that! Not everybody shares your sense of humour. She could get seriously hurt — girls can be painfully sensitive about such matters. And you might be saying “Of course I’d never joke about a girl getting fat!” Well, a friend of mine once joked about it with a skinny girl he’d known since they were 14. He thought she’d know he was joking because it was “obvious” he was joking because she’s so skinny. But she was really hurt! And I’m not surprised. Just don’t do it, you’ll trigger a deep well of insecurities.
I don’t have the space to say much more, so I’ll leave you with one last piece of advice: if you ever notice a girl around you — a female friend, a sister, a girlfriend, even your mum — who looks insecure, remember what I’ve said and try to make her feel better. And if one of the girls around you seems happy, for the love of God don’t joke about her looks or her image, because she *is* almost certainly insecure. Keep her happy! It’s good karma — it’ll come back to you in the end!
There aren’t many things in life as rewarding as making someone you care about genuinely happy. You have the power to improve the life of the women around you by letting them know what’s special about them and why you love being around them, so use it! Believe me, they’ll remember it for a long time and want to spend their time with you. Don’t go overboard and just shower people with compliments all the time. That rings false quickly, or reduces their impact, but do let them know what you appreciate about them. Everybody loves being around a person who thinks they’re special and attractive — we all want to feel important. We’re all insecure. We all crave compliments. No matter how gorgeous we are.
Editors note: Remember to check out Eva’s book: ‘Get a Girl: By a Girl’
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